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Yes you need to tell your parents and figure out where all her money is going if she only has 3 bills to pay $2000 is more than enough for her to pay what she needs and still have plenty to save i dont want to assume or imply but it sounds like drugs alcohol or gambling thats all i know of that can cause someone to go through mass amounts of money but there could be many other things going on if she has a boyfriend who has access to her bank account that needs to stop if hes the one pulling her money
Sister asking for money
Kinda long sorry but I need advice :/
My older sister has been asking my husband and I for money a lot lately and I don't know what to do. She still lives with my parents, she doesn't pay them anything to live with them, all she pays for every month is her car and car insurance along with her phone bill and she's making close to $2,000 a month so there's no reason for her to not have money. A couple months ago, she called me saying her bank account was -$1,500 and she needed to borrow money to get her account back to $0, she wouldn't tell us why but we said no because we didn't have the money to give her. 2 weeks later, she called asking for $400 and said it was because her and my parents were splitting the rent deposit on my parents new house and she lied to my mom saying she had the money but she actually didn't, she told us she would have the money back to us at the end of the week and my husband decided to trust her because it was helping my parents out too so we gave it to her, it took her over 3 weeks to pay us back and she was really rude about paying it back too. A few days ago, she messaged me asking if I knew a way to get more money because her phone bill got cut off from not paying it and then today she messaged me asking for $200 and said her boyfriend messed up her account and now she needs $200 which I don't understand at all. We always say no because we don't have the money plus we have a baby coming in about 2 weeks so we can't just be giving people money. I haven't told my mom what's going on because I don't want to start a family argument but I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I talked to my cousin about it and she told me my sister has been asking HER for money too. Should I tell my parents??
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Well I would talk to your mom. It sounds like she had a problem she's not telling anyone about. I'm not saying this is what it is but my uncle has a serious drug problem. And he's always asking my family and has even asked me for money. I feel bad I tell him no everytime because I don't trust it. Especially the other day he asked for some to pay his phone and I really didn't have it, and I told my dad about it and he said yeah well we just gave him that money for his phone so he obviously spent that on beer or whatever he's on right now. I'd kind of try to set up a family meeting without her and then figure out why she's asking for money from everyone all the time.
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Unless she tells the truth.
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G like that can be an addiction. And she's going to end up screwed cause she could be in so much debt. Or start stealing and get caught. But yeah I'd defiantly sit down and talk with everyone get the story straight then sit down and talk to her about what's going on and that no one is going to help
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Even that can be an addiction that she'd need help for. Like I said I'm not saying drugs but that's just an example what we go through and it's like we give him money for a specific thing but he's asking someone else for the same amount. Cause the first time he spent it on whatever. But even shoppin
You need to tell your parents what's going on. It sounds like she's spending money having fun instead of being responsible because she knows you'll have her back when she needs it, its actually enabling her. At $2000 a month with barely any bills she shouldn't have an excuse. My SO'S step brother is the same way! He lives at home makes around $3000, has a very small car payment(like 300ish), gets free cells for him and his wife through welfare fraud, has a son his parents buy everything for and is expecting a new baby. He spent close to $3000 on his sons first birthday, his 1st birthday?! They never have money and everyone spoils them. Unfortunately, in that situation my SO'S patents are being enablers, his brother will never learn how to adult and be responsible if no one puts their foot down. It's almost like disabling them.
Update: I had to go to the hospital this morning for monitoring for my baby and my husband and I decided since we were in town (I'm delivering my baby in a different town than we live in and it's a town that my parents live in though) that we would tell my parents, I asked my cousin if it was okay that I mention that my sister has been asking her for money too and she said yes. We went to their house after we got out of the hospital and my husband asked my mom if we could talk out by our car alone, we went out and he started explaining what was happening and I told her about the times she's asked for money and then said she was also asking my cousin. She agrees that my sister should still have lots of money left over every month and said "well thank you for telling me" and then the conversation was basically done from there. I think she waited till after we went home to talk to my sister. I haven't heard anything from them though
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