is every man like this?! is romance a thing of the past?

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I don't know where to start. I'm frustrated in my 8 year marriage. Two kids (6y and 2 months) at the beginning he was sweet and treated me well... Now days it's like I don't exist. He doesn't like kissing, hugging, making out, going out... Basically all the romantic things I long for. I don't want to break my family apart, he's a good man, works hard and is an amazing father but I want passion and sparks and someone to have fun with and to be spontaneous with. He never really was but at least he put more effort into it at the beginning... What do I do, how do I fix this?! I'm tired of being lonely and sad. 
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I have tried everything in the book, it's just the way he is. I keep telling him about communication but he doesn't seem to get it. I am very verbal, he doesn't ever want to sit down and have a talk, he shuts down right away. After years of this I am beyond frustrated. Doing little things for him go unnoticed or unappreciated. I've reached out to his mom for help, not sure what's going to happen. Our anniversary is in a week, he doesn't care to celebrate it 😥😢😭

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When this happened in my relationship we went on holiday and things soon turned around! Sadly life gets in the way sometimes and we all forget to make an effort and forget how important it is, I try and remember to do little things for my partner like having dinner ready for him when he comes home from work or buy his favourite treat when I go shopping xx

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I'm married 10 years and also have 2 kids aged 8 and 1. We also hit spots where life got in the way, busy with the kids that we were forgetting to be romantic. Our thing now is that after we put the kids to bed we spend at least 30 min cuddling, watching something on tv or just talking. We have date night once a week in which we take turns to plan.   We realized we often take each other for granted. I think maybe start with an open conversation and come to some sort of agreement. Good luck 🍀

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Do you do things you used to do? I realIze that sounds really rude. But I mean it in a good way. When I find this happening in my marriage I try and do things for my husband. If I'm grocery shopping I'll just pick him up a candy bar or his favorite pop. Or I'll make his favorite treat. Or I'll pick up a Redbox and put it on when our daughter goes to bed with popcorn. Once I start doing little things for him it helps with the romance. Or I just tell him I need to be romanced. I hope this helps. Like I said, I didn't mean my question to be rude, I just didn't know how to ask it. But for us, small acts of service help start that fire.

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Have a conversation with him and see what's up. If y'all don't knows what's wrong you can't fix it.

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Yes! Try to talk to him about it. I am sure if u will put effort in to it, he will do the same. Taking care of urself is absolute must. (And it's possible if u got kids) be sexy. Surprise him with outfits, random small things besides being wife. Manlove that, u know what he is in to, if not? It's ok, get to know... ones u give him what he wants, I am absolutely sure he will not leave u unsetisfied😜

is every man like this?! is romance a thing of the past?

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