Letting my bf smoke?
(Really long I'm sorry :/ I suck at explaining) My bf and I are about to reach two years. He's changed a lot for me because he used to do a lot of bad things out on the streets. I caught him cheating on me about a year ago and after that I basically had him wrapped around my finger. I told him to stop selling drugs, doing drugs, robbing people, going out, etc. or else I wasnt going to give him another chance. He did and now he has completely flipped his life around, has a job in timeshare sales at a nice hotel, just got his own house (for us), even got a cute puppy, and has his own vehicle. He did this on his own with my support and he's only 19. But he's been very tense and gets mad EASILY. Last night we had to sit down and talk because we would argue every single day and it had to stop. He brought something up that was kind of shocking to me. He has been smoking marijuana since he was in 4th grade and just stopped about 5 months ago. So I did meet him when he was smoking. I didn't like it, but I thought I could make him stop in the long run. Soooo he asked me if he could start smoking again because he's been so used to it and it makes him happy and relaxed. He would sometimes bring it up and I would think he was kidding and we'd forget about it. He also said he feels like he deserves it and it's the "only" thing he's asking for. I've never liked the idea of it like I said but I thought it wasn't really going to affect me. He thinks that I don't truly love him for who he is, that I'm in love with someone I made or fixed. He appreciates that I helped him change his life around but the only thing is that he wants to smoke. I really do love him and and want to see him comfortable and happy because I'm never home due to classes and my full time job. Should I just accept him and let him smoke? Should I let him hang out with friends? Is it time for me to stop being so in control?
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