So yesterday we found out for sure that it's safe for baby and I both that I have a csection. I'm already nervous as it is but now I'm just feeling so stressed about it all.

We went to the MIL house to tell her the news and to tell her how we would like for things to happen.

Well when we told her the date of the surgery she was just unbelievable. She asked why can't you pick a different date? What might be the big deal you ask? Well it's the first grands birthday. (He is 15)

First of all if anyone has been through any kind of surgery and when the schedule you for a surgery they don't really give you dates to pick from you take what they have available. So god forbid I didn't pick that date. And trust and believe if I could pick when I could have our daughter I so would have.

So now she's already upset about that. I'm livid but I go on to tell her the plans. Well my my if our wishes was just so awful. I have a 8 year old. So I told her and the Fil that once they pick up my son that I would for them to come see the baby then. Well she flipped she asked why are you making us wait. She was like this is not all what I expected. I just don't understand why you are pushing us away. This isn't just your baby. This is my son's baby too. I said your son is agrees and backs me 100 percent. So he stepped in and tried to explain but she just wasn't having it. I felt so disrespected. So I was hot by then. I was look there has to be some boundaries and I want my husband and I to be able to see our daughter first. She just acted like we as parents didn't matter.

She went on to tell us how her daughter did do this to her and that when she had a csection she was okay with baby leaving her and going to her room while she was in recovery. And just on and on.

I for one am a whole other person. I personally want to nurse my daughter and I want that bonding time with her before anyone else.

I don't feel like I'm in the wrong. But last night I just couldn't sleep because now I just don't feel excited about this baby anymore because I feel it's going to be so much drama. Before my husband and I got pregnant do you know how often we seen his family. We seen them on holidays and birthdays and now it's like we won't be able to get rid of them or raise our baby.

I'm just so lost for worlds.

Anyone else in this position?