Am I over reacting????

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So the other day I was at a party and I got drunk and went back to my boyfriends house. We ended up having sex. Obviously because I was drunk my confidence went sky high. But then today my boyfriend and me had sex and it was all good and after wards we were talking about but gifts and I said "if I don't ever have money I'll just give you sex for your bday" and he said "that's more like my present to you, only time you do anything is when you're drunk " and it really hurt me because I'm not a confident person at the best of times. And it really knocked me down. Am I over reacting?

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Personally I don't think you are becouse I understand how it feels as I'm not an confident person but I think you should speak to him about it Becosue I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you X

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THAT WAS SO RUDE. I'd be like "well you can give it to yourself until you learn how tf to talk to me". How is that supposed to help you be confident about being in bed with him?! It takes time to learn what works in bed. If he wants something more then he should've taken the time to say "hey babe it would turn me on if you" or "how would you feel about trying..." not that. You can't take back the words that you say and that's what he seems to not realize. You shouldn't say something like that to someone you want a relationship with. If you want to make this work eventhough he may be an ass then you maybe could avoid having sex with him again until you discuss this. Tell him that his words hurt you because you don't feel very confident and that when you're drunk it helps you let your guard down. Let him know that it's your fears (and his words now) that make you nervous about what you do. Tell him that communication is important even when it comes to sex, and that if he wants to try something then you two can practice t together if you're willing to learn. (If these things are on your mind and you want to work on your relationship instead of ending it, you can think for yourself but honestly a man who says something like that does not value you beyond the bedroom. That was hurtful and shows where his mind is. Being intimate with someone is a beautiful experience that you should value simply because it's an intimate experience. Doesn't sound like he's worth it. )

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I did bring it up, and he said it was only a joke, but that's not how I took it? it hurt? He apologised but it hasn't made me feel any better. What now?

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You have the right to be upset, but I would talk to him. Sometimes guys don't realize how hurtful they're being.

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No, to say that to someone who is already insecure is so rude and hurtful. Hon I'm getting angry for you, I'd definitely say something. I'm sorry 😕

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