no epidural ? what does it matter

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FTM and I keep seeing and hearing a lot of women with the need to mention "no drugs" "all natural" like its something they feel they HAVE to mention for some reason. Like I wouldn't really ask that because I feel like it's very personal but Okay good for you that's awesome but why does it really matter to anyone else but you ?  if you did it all natural or not ?  Every labor and situation is obviously different and I just don't see the reason to brag and bost about it. Not every mom that did it natural comes across that way but some on here seem like they feel superior for it. Even my own mother is like oh I had all of you nature, which she has mentioned several times threw out my pregnancy.  I'm like oh okay doesn't mean I have to or want to do the same, Just saying.

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They're proud of it- let them be!

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I hear you

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Why do you let it offend you so much? Any labour is difficult and each women and pregnancy is different. Worry about you and your baby and not what others are doing with their own!

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Why do you feel a need to put them down?

Medicated or not it's their choice just like you have yours.

You could just keep scrolling "just saying" 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄💚

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A lot of women get told throughout their pregnancy that they CAN'T give birth without pain relief, so it actually is a huge accomplishment for them and they are proud of it.

I don't understand why it hurts you for women to share that part of their birth stories. By your logic, women also shouldn't share info about the pain meds they received, bc it's personal and what does it matter. Really, by that logic no one should share any part of their birth story bc it's all personal and what does any of it matter to the rest of the world?

It does come across that some people think they're better bc they went all natural, but it's up to you to ignore that and not let it bother you, bc the world isn't going to stop talking about their natural birth stories just so they don't annoy you.

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I don't feel I'm "superior" but after struggling with my first labour and needing an episiotomy and stitches for an average 7lb 11oz baby I was damn proud of myself for giving birth to my 9lb 6oz giant of a second son with nothing...not that I would have had time to have pain relief anyway...I went 5cm to delivered in 25mins. 
Some people set themselves a goal of having a natural birth and they're allowed to feel that sense of pride if they accomplish it or they might have gone into labour thinking they'll take what they can and not have needed it. You're allowed to feel proud no matter how you birth because you've got a beautiful new baby. Why do you feel the need to put other women down for their choices? Would you say someone felt "superior" for announcing they'd passed their driving test or for graduating? No, you're happy for them and they're proud of their achievements.

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I agree. Sometimes it does seem like people are rubbing it in a little. But in all honesty they're probably just proud of themselves. I know I would be!  My first I had an epidural,  and I give props to those who can do it without. I'm hoping I can go without this time! :)

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I completely agree! It seems like there is a chunk of the population that believe natural is better. I personally believe that what works for each person is great. I find no need to bash or shame others for their choices. This is very similar to the breastfeeding debate. Everyone should be entitled to have their own opinions without feeling belittled. I've also never been a fan of people who brag about anything, as I like to keep my accomplishments to myself and family.

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I say I want to go natural becuz EVERYONE keeps telling me to get the epidural...if I do it natural and get through it id be super proud of myself and if asked id tell. To each there own.

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Having a drug free delivery is not any easy task. They every right to be proud. Doesn't mean they are shaming other people for using drugs to help. Every labor is different and every women is different, but no one can argue that a all natural delivery is easy, so just let them be proud!

no epidural ? what does it matter

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