oral sex

Ladies I need help. I love oral a lot but he will only give very lil it's always me give and not really receiving. I mean it's nice to get something back but after the 1-2 years we've been together and sexual active he shows no interest in going down in me. 😞😞😔😔 I'm getting very self conscious about my lady part. I've tried talking to him about it and one conversation he said he don't wanna cuz he ain't getting anything out of it. I feel he don't want me anymore either when it's time for love making it's not love like it's different. It's fast and then afterwards he's very distant. I've checked down there and I'm getting very paranoid about it. Idk if it's cuz my inner lips come out or I'm not pretty popping pink or what and my natural smell is bothering me. idk I'm just worried. what do I need to say to him and how do I help myself feel better?