I just left my daughter's father because he puts drugs before us (WARNING: LONG)
So he used to abuse drugs really bad and he stopped when I found out I was pregnant (or so he claims. Idk what to believe anymore). Our daughter is now 2 months old and we were having a conversation on the phone and he told me his cousin won $500 on a scratch ticket. He said he wished he won that money so he could get a whole bottle of xanax. I kinda thought he was joking but I didn't think it was funny. I said, "You're a dad. You don't need to be doing drugs." He said, "I'm an adult. I'll do what I want. I'm not your kid so don't treat me like I am." I then proceeded to tell him, "I know you're not my kid. I just do not want to be with a drug user and I don't want you to put drugs before our daughter. I have matured so why can't you?" He told me I have to accept him for who is or not be with him. I told him, "I won't be with you or allow you to see our daughter if you put doing drugs before us. Drugs are not apart of you. Doing drugs is a choice and you can stop." He just kept saying that he'll do what he wants and he started laughing at me while calling me crazy. I feel as if I'm just looking out for me and my daughter. I don't want her around things like that nor do I support it so I proceeded to tell him that he will not be in either of our lives until he changes his mindset and gets his priorities straight. By the way, I'm 18 and this guy is 22, has a warrant out, (nothing serious or violent but still), doesn't have his own place, his car is broken, he lost his other job and is now working for about $300 a week (ive found so many good jobs for him but he refuses to even go to an interview. He has no ambition to bring our family out of this mess) But he says the first thing he'd do is go buy drugs if he was to get $500. I really thought he had changed because he told me he had not been doing drugs but I don't trust him anymore. I'm 90% sure that this is it for us but I don't know if I'm doing the right thing by not allowing my daughter to see him until he mans up. Am I or not?
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