Splitting the Holidays

Well ladies I need some help. I have been in a relationship a year and a half as of yesterday. Last year the holidays were rough cause we lived in different cities and he had more family in his city. It was just my parents where I lived and my grandparents lived in his city. Well last year my parents went to Atlanta to see my mom aunt for thanksgiving and I spent the holiday with him because he said he had multiple meals with different families (divorced parents) turns out we only did his dads thanksgiving and that was some horrible food. I missed out on a chance to see my great aunt one last time before she died because of this. Well Christmas my family and I came to Tallahassee (his city) and we found a way to make it work. I went to his Christmas eve stuff came home did my Christmas eve stuff he stayed a bit then he went home we did Christmas with our own families. That one kinda worked. Well fast forward to this year. I have moved to Tallahassee to go to college here and be with him. My parents are coming over tomorrow for thanksgiving and I would like to spend the whole day with them since I work Friday Saturday and Sunday and tomorrow is the only day I have off that they will be here. Well he wants me to come see his family too which I often see more often than my parents. It has been over a month since I have seen my mom and Dad and miss them horribly. Well telling him this started a fight and since I'm 18 I texted my mom looking for advise and she made a group message which to me came off sweet and loving but not for him. Things have mostly been resolved now and I will be spending the whole day with my family guilt free and he might come over after the meal with his mom's side then we go shopping together in the middle of the night.