So I've been trying to work with my side of the family and my SO's side of the family to make sure we can spend time with both of them for Christmas. Well, they both ended up wanting to do their family christmas thing on Christmas Day. Ok, cool. My family is a few hours away, so we figured we'd drive down there Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>, spend Christmas morning with my family and Christmas evening with his. (We would be at his family's house by 5PM, so not like it'd be late or anything). Im pregnant and cant sit in a car for that long at a time, and both of us work the next day, so that way made the most sense to us.

Well his family texted him today saying we needed to leave my family early to make it to their Christmas thing 2 hours before the time we agreed to. That would mean me and my family would have to wake up earlier, rush through our time together, and then we'd have to get on the road and drive straight through to make it. It's Christmas day. I don't want to rush through it. His family lives in the same city as us and can see us anytime. I literally only see some of my family members this one time of the year, and it was a sacrifice for me to even agree to leave as early as we were going to, to make it to his family's Christmas at 5.

So he told his family no, we weren't going to do that, we will be there by 5 as discussed, and if they want to do things without us, our feelings wouldn't be hurt. Well. They asked why we couldnt be there, he told them, for the third time, that we would be a few hours away with my family. He gets a message back saying being in a relationship means sharing the holidays, and basically acting like we were blowing them off completely to be with my family.

I'm so angry and hurt. I'm ALWAYS trying to get with them for lunch or dinner, and we make every one of their birthdays and events. We see them once every month or so. I don't go to almost any of my family's events. This is the one day I get to see all of my family and spend time together with them, and that's special to me. I'm not trying to keep him from his family and I felt like we did good planning it out so we could relax and not rush, but still spend time with everyone, and now it seems like it's not enough...this is what I was hoping to avoid 😔 what do I do?