Husband usually says no?

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First, I'm pretty satisfied with my sex life, even when sex isn't all that regular sex is always AMAZING. We don't even have sex every week, but when we do, it kinda turns into an event, we usually get down several times that day. It's usually short, but that's because I dry out easy and have reactions to every lube I've tried.
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But I feel kinda weird by the fact I'm usually the one initiating it. It's not like my husband doesn't want me, but he says no a lot of the time. Either he's tired or he just says no for unknown reasons. I've been conditioned to think men are supposed to have these super high sex drives, but it seems he might not be one of those. Plus he's very thoughtful in the fact that he usually doesn't want to just be pleasured, saying if I'm putting work into pleasuring him, I deserve to be pleasured as well and he doesn't have the energy to give at that moment what I deserve.
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Is anyone else's marriages like this? I'm not U satisfied, but I am confused as I thought it was normally the women who say no.

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Very very rarely is my husband the one to initiate sex. It's always me that gets it going. It bothers me because when we were younger it was almost every day, now I'm lucky to get it more than 3 times a week or two, and that's special. Usually if I think he wants to BD I jump on the opportunity. But it's difficult to deal with. I usually try to send him pictures randomly or text him telling him stuff. But I'm such a "loving" [😉] person that I always want him.

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It depends how long uv been married and sometimes it can slow down we have once a month sometimes sometimes more 
Theres nothing wrong if u make the first move cus i do too 
Dont worry u married and its normal 
Everybodys sex drive is different

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I'm almost always the one to initiate sex and my husband does say no semi frequently. He works like crazy in addition to homesteading, so I understand that he often just doesn't have the energy. It used to bother me a lot. It still bothers me sometimes, but I'm comforted by the fact that he's very loving and attentive in other ways. When we do have sex, it's awesome. I guess I've come to accept quality over quantity.

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There are times when I feel like I'm begging to have sex but there are other times he feels like he's begging so it evens out.  As for lube, have you tried coconut ?  It's worked great for me

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My boyfriend can have sex every 5 mins but i usually dont feel like having sex all the time but when i do get a high sex drive he usually tells me no or we do it once its crazy!

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My boyfriend has said no...it's not unusual unless it's often? Have you tried talking to him?

Husband usually says no?

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