So little background on the situation, my SO has addiction problems it runs throughout his family as well. He's had a huge problem with alcohol and pot. At the beginning of our relationship he would help watch MY daughter(2.5yr @ the time) when I found out he would be getting black out drunk and smoking weed when he was the only adult home. I put a stop to that and I left him for 4 months. During that time he got sober and got his life together. Fast forward to now and he's been sober for a year and a half. Now I've known him all my life he use to deal and won't tell you the whole truth unless he has too. So from time to time I snoop to make sure he isn't fucking up and is honest with me. Judge all you want but I always find cigs hidden which he claims he isn't smoking and our son has acid reflux and that makes it worse. Anyways yesterday I found a text to his friend about how he had green for tonight at work. I confronted after I sent myself a screenshot of it and I got 3 diff stories, it's green paint (they work in plastic molding), then it was they smoke not me, and finally after I put both kids n his ass in the car to get a drug test he wants to say he only took a puff 2 weeks ago. Now he's 5'6 n maybe 135lbs I'm sorry but if you took one hit 2 weeks ago it's outta your system. He's skinny as hell and his metabolism is fast so there's no way he'd drop dirty. I'm convinced he's still not telling me the truth since his story changed 3 times in a matter of an hour. I told him he has 2 weeks from now to drop clean and if he doesn't I'm leaving with the kids. But in my heart I just want to leave anyways. I told him this shit was unacceptable which is why I left before and I'm amazed he did it again. He did say he took one hit because he wanted to see if he really changed and if he'd still like it and that pissed me off. IF that was true you fess up, if that was true why would you risk a 1.5yr sober to just see when addiction runs in your family and you def have it?! I made it clear before I wouldn't stand for it and I don't trust him since he hasn't been honest about the cigs and now all this. So question is what would you do? Should I give him the 2 weeks to pass the test? Should I plan my way out? This has really changed how I feel about him and about how I think he feels about the family cuz why would you risk your 2 kids (he calls my daughter his) and your gf over that shit again when it made you lose us in the first place?.

FYI: I don't judge parents who smoke, if you can smoke and be a productive person by all means to each their own, however this is NOT my bf he doesn't function on it so I believe it's a different situation.