Going back to work?!

Question

I am supposed to return your work in January but I don't know if im ready :( I have the option through my employer to take an extended leave but I already feel awful for my husband being the only income. He keeps telling me to do whatever makes me happy but I just don't know what that is! Lol. Any other mommas struggling with going back to work??

Answer

With my first baby it took me almost 2 years to get used to being away at work from him.  ( having another baby actually helped take the pressure off him!) I struggled every day only seeing him for a few hours, but I also love my career and worked so hard to get where I am.  The job I have is so competitive that if I was out for a few years I would never get back in.  The time you do have becomes so much more important- and I found myself never taking anything for granted and being proud that I could show my children what it is to work towards their dreams and be a strong family unit as well.  I got to spend my second leave with my toddler and baby this time- which was so challenging and so special at the same time.  I feel grateful for the time I've had and I'm nervous about transitioning yet again to the working parents flow.  I feel like we all have this choice, and either way you go it's a sacrifice.  It's hard work to be home all day with my babes and it's also hard to be away from them to work.  What helps is confidence in your choice, and be at peace with it so you can enjoy your family either way!  Everything works out really.  My son loves me either way and my daughter will too

Answer

I am struggling immensely :-( I'm a teacher and I actually teach with my husband in the same classroom, so me being out has been tough on him over my leave, otherwise I think he would be more willing to say to take the rest of the year off even though that could financially be tough. I go back Monday for 2 days then for good in January. If I think about it, I cry. It's sooo tough!! I already have made up my mind for sure that I'm going to switch to a part time job next year that allows me to be with my baby (fitness instructor and potentially tutoring from my home). I have to do what feels right for me and my family and my husband supports that. We will make some financial sacrifices, but I see it as a time I can't ever ever get back with my baby. You've gotta do what you feel in your gut is the right thing to do. If I get back to work and think "hey his is actually great", I may reconsider, but for now this plan will mentally get me to the end of the year. Mommas were meant to be with their babies, we just live in a day and age that mommas also work. It's tough!! I hope you figure out what is best for you and your family! :) Good luck!!

Going back to work?!

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