Opinions? Am I a terrible person?!

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I'm posting this anonymously because I feel like a terrible person and I guess I just need opinions on if I'm really being terrible or if its the hormones making me feel this crazy.  My husband and I are giving our parents their first grandbaby and his grandparents first great grandbaby. They are ecstatic. My mom calls my daughter "her baby" and his mom and grandparents have made similar comments talking about how she will be with them all the time... I know, I have nieces and nephews from my step sisters.. I call my nephew "my baby" and I tell me sister all the time I would just adopt him in a heartbeat. I know it's because they are excited and they are going to love our little girl so much. But I'm a pretty insecure person I guess and I'm so worried my baby girl won't like me. Or shell want to be around them all the time and not us. I'm typing all this out thinking I sound terrible and completely ungrateful for such a loving family. I'm so thankful. I am. I'm just also a push over and afraid I won't stand up for what I want for my daughter because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. These hormones are really getting to me y'all. 😭

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You're not a terrible person, you're just dealing with pregnancy hormones. Do you know how many ridiculous thoughts I have every day?  Like a TON!  Just try to say, "I'm just feeling insecure right now and this feeling will pass."

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I would do almost anything to have as supportive parents as you. Not saying you are ungrateful at all because you are just trying to be a good mom! We all are! My husband and I are expecting our first baby and my parents have 5 other grandkids. They are hardly in their lives nor mine despite our constant struggle to try to involve them. They are not disapproving of any of us, they are just in their own weird la la world that none of us understand. I keep hoping it will change but I dont want to have unrealisric expectations. You will be the mama and always have a special bond. Cherish the love your family wants to give your baby. And yes, hormones are a bitch.

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So my husband and I had my parents first grandkid and they were the same way (but lived out of state from where we lived) I loved knowing my son was so loved and would be cared for if anything happened to me and my husband. It would have broken my heart if they were not excited. My husbands parents were excited because this is their first grand baby that will pass on the family name but they have other grandchildren and were a lot more mellow. Basically, focus on the positives. Your baby will always love you no matter what since your their MOTHER! but wouldn't you be sad if your child didn't care about or love their grandparents?

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I get it. I would get so hurt, not offended but hurt, when my oldest was hurt or sick and didn't want mommy but wanted daddy or grandparents but as time goes on you realize they love you with all of their hearts. As time goes on it may seem as though they "like or love" someone more it's not true. Sometimes there is just comfort in someone you aren't constantly with and in the even harder times your child will want you. So take in the times that your child's bonds with others and know their love for you is like no other.

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I'm going with a similar thing this my MIL. Don't feel bad. I'm getting angry thinking she is going to want to be around us all the time and giving me advice then I feel guilty for being so selfish.

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I totally get it. I'm going through similar things with my MIL except she lives out of state. My husband is her oldest and only son out of 2 kids. She really doesn't like me much because she thinks I took my husband away from her. She keeps making comments to me and others that disregard me as my sons mother. She says my son is having a baby or when I ask about going to do or have something specific to eat when we visit she says my grandson will love that instead of focusing on the fact that I'm the one asking. She's trying to tell us how to raise our son and even says she needs significant amount of bonding time with him since she lives out of state and he needs to absolutely be able to know who she is and go to her when we visit or vice versa. This is her first grandchild but she likes to forget that my husband and I are married and this is my child, not hers. I have to constantly say he's half bean (that's my maiden name) because she likes to only believe that he's full Dowrick (my married name and their name). 
I would say just correct them nicely saying "it's my baby" etc. I call my nephews my babies but it's cause they lived with us their whole life and I was 16 when they were born and my brother went to prison shortly after they were born so my mom and I practically raised them until I went to college. They are now 6 and still live with my mom. It's a different situation. Just try to be strong and if it bothers you that they said my baby, then just politely correct them because it is your baby not theirs.

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I'm the same way. Everytime someone says they can't wait to hold or kiss my baby I freak out. Like no. You have to wash your hands while my husband watches you then hand sanitize. Then you can hold him sitting down for tops 2 seconds. No kissing on the face or hand or head just no kissing. 😫😫😫. I've lost 4 babies through different types of miscarriages so I'm already super protective.
Everyone knows I won't let anyone babysit so they are all like we are just gonna kidnap him.i know they are just kidding but they seriously don't understand how bad that can mess with someone's head.  😞.
And everyone is fighting about being in the room with me while I deliver so they can be the first to hold him. They haven't even asked if I mind they just assume they can be in there.  I don't even want anyone at the hospital! I feel like I'm fighting for my baby already. 
 I just want to run away with my baby and hubby lol.

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