Live your life the way YOU want to live your life. Be with who you want, love who you want, live your life for you. As long as you are happy and comfortable with the decisions you have made and the life you have chosen for yourself FUCK what anyone else, including family has to say. Life is entirely too short not to live your life for yourself. You can't please everyone, and you don't have to. At the end of the day you are the only one that us going to deal with the consequences of your actions.