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My mom called me fat, she says I'm overweight, she makes fun of me because of my weight. I barely eat because of that and I'm still the same. She's made me self-conscious about my weight/my body. I'm 12 and I weigh 120 lbs and I am 5'1 all my friends are 5'0 and weigh 90 lbs (if even). I don't feel comfortable going to the pool with my friends cause my weight "problem". I don't feel comfortable doing anything now. What can I do to loose weight? Diets, workouts, not eating, nothing is working. What can I do to loose weight to make he confident with myself?

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Please don't stop eating. My mother told me I needed to lose weight when I was 10, I delevoled eating disorders around 11. I'm 26 and I still struggle with my relationship with food.

I need to tell you that eating disorders and starving yourself will not work. I NEVER reached even close to the weight I wanted in all those years of torture.

Please focus on loving your body. Focus on what you can do with your business body. Can you run fast? Swim? Dance? Are you flexible? Like yoga? Whatever your body's talent, find it and practice it. Your body can do some amazing things, and from someone who struggles with body image, knowing my body's talents allows me to respect it far beyond its appearance.

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You're 12. It is SO normal (and healthy) to have some extra weight on you at that age. Being too thin or too heavy can have consequences on your reproductive system.

And not to mention, you're not the one deciding what you get to eat. Your parents and your school decide. So don't EVER feel bad about your choices. I was always taller and heavier than all of the other girls in elementary and middle school and it made me feel huge and fat because I hit my growth spurt before any of them did. We all go through it and as silly as it will seem when you're older, it's NORMAL to feel self-conscious sometimes.

If you want to have some fun and get healthy/healthier, you can jump rope in your room or hula hoop or sing your lungs out while vacuuming and it is all actually exercise and will workout all your muscle groups while being super fun!

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I'm 17. I'm your height, and I weigh about 130 something. Do I look fat to you?

That's one way I learned to realize that my weight was perfectly okay. I looked at girls that were the same height and weight as me, and I said, "They're not fat, so it's obviously in my head." Maybe you should try the same. If you're like me, when you look in the mirror, you see yourself as fat, but you can look at someone the same size and think they're skinny. Girl, you're smaller than I am, and I'm not fat, so you're obviously not either. You should learn to love yourself, because you're beautiful. My family has always told me I'm fat. Am I? No. Family can just be mean. You have to learn to brush it off. Good luck, beautiful!

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Girl, I'm 5'0, 115lbs, so we're pretty similar in size. First things first, you are not overweight. At all.

Secondly, if what your mom says bothers you, speak up! Next time she says something that hurts your feelings, just say so. Just a simple "hey can you not comment on my weight anymore like that? It really bothers me" is all you need. If she continues to say those things to you, ask another trusted adult how to deal with it or get her to stop, someone like a school counselor.

You're 12 years old, please don't stop eating! I'm 17 and I've been through hell and back with an eating disorder. It will completely ruin your health, possibly permanently even after recovery. Google "negative effects of eating disorders" and find out for yourself. You're so young! Way too young to be worried about your weight. I know how you feel, and I'm going to tell you what has really been the only thing that gave me my confidence back after feeling so awful about myself for years.

Every day, multiple times per day, look in the mirror and smile to yourself. Tell yourself that you are beautiful and perfect the way you are. Say it over and over again, even if you don't believe it. Fake it till you make it! Eventually you will start to realize that you are so much more than a number on a scale.

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Your weight isn't even bad, that's pretty normal. Don't listen to your mom she's a fucking bully.

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Wtf no ignore her

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