desperate breast feeding / forceful letdown

Please help!!! I have extreme forceful let down. My poor baby😢 she wants to latch for comfort and eating. But my milk comes out like a hose. She's 8 weeks old and no she's not getting used to it she cries tries again and is sent into a  crying fit.     I do pump but she wants breast fir comfort.       I can't express it first because it's hard if I'm holding her st the same time.      I have no one else to hold her. She cries and cries and we  both get desperate. I tick her give her a paci to sleep . I'm so tired from work 😩 hard night . Advice please