FINAL UPDATE* what would you do if your teenager came to saying they're pregnant?
My 16 year old daughter came to me saying she is pregnant. She says she doesn't know if she wants to keep the baby, but I know it's because she is scared of having a child. She can't see the light right now. I don't feel like a failure, because I know shit happens... and I'm not going to pay for an abortion. This just means she has to grow up a little sooner than anticipated. I am her mother and I will help her through it. We have to tell her dad, and I'm not sure how my husband is going to react... honestly, this isn't something we ever imagined happening to us. We are great parents, we provide for our family... I don't want to be judged by our community (we live in an upper class community), but we are real people.. we will get through this and support our daughter. What do we do about school? Should we home school? I'm a little stuck on where to go from here... I need advice.
EDIT**
I can't believe some of you are saying I should let her have an abortion. If she had the means of paying for an abortion herself, then I couldn't stop her... but I'm not supporting abortion by giving her the money to do it. If she wanted to choose adoption, I would be ok with that too... I do know my daughter enough to say I know she is more scared than anything, so she doesnt understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Her life is not over and this baby is a blessing to someone if it's not her... I would adopt the baby if anything...
We try our best to be the best christians we can be, and although we may not always do the right thing and make mistakes... I don't support abortion... She is a smart girl. I will update you guys when she comes home. I told my husband just now and he's very upset and disappointed... I'm going to let him marinate. I went ahead and told him so maybe he calms down by the time she's home from school, she asked me to go ahead and tell him.
*UPDATE**
I just have to say, to those telling me to let her make her own choice and it sounds like she doesn't want to keep the baby so why am I MAKING her? Well, I do know my daughter best, and of course she is scared with her being so young... of course she is conflicted on how she is going to manage growing up and being a mother. I don't care that my post made any of you mad, I was looking to vent here anonymously. Her father and I both agree that we are not contributing to the termination of a baby.. not. Happening. In our family God comes first, marriage second, then our children. If she and the father came up with funds to do it, then fine... but we are not contributing to it. I don't care what any of you have to say about it...
Now before any of that came out of our mouths, she said SHE wanted to keep the baby. We are more than fine with that and have scheduled her an appointment to visit our obgyn. This will be a long tough road, but we will be able to handle it! We will still continue to raise a strong girl and she is proving to us that she will take on this new blessing with an open mind and heart. We will not let this ruin her. Thanks to those supporting my parenting and her decision.
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