Stuck

So my ex was a piece of trash. We didn't have sex for a year. He blamed it on my weight gain at first then said he probably had ED. It made me feel so ugly and self conscious. I tried everything in the book to make our sex life work again and he did not reciprocate as far as making the effort went. I couldn't take it anymore so I dumped him this past June. He was verbally abuse and very toxic and neglectful towards me for 2 1/2 years. I have only had sex once this year with an old friend and have been struggling to get back on the saddle and have a normal sex life. Any tips? Solo play gets kind of old after a while. I feel like I've lost my mojo...