MY MONSTER

My mom has always been one of those right-up-your-ass people. And it has always made me mad. Now that I'm pregnant with my rainbow baby she doesn't seem to know when to quit. I know she's excited. But I'm just barely getting to a point where I can relax and enjoy this pregnancy. Every day she bombards me on every type of social media (text message, Facebook, twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, etc.) with baby stuff after I have asked her countless times not to. Because even if she sends it to me, it pops up everywhere while I'm online which was the hardest thing ever after losing our babies. 

Anyway... if I don't pick up the phone when she calls, less than 10 seconds after she's hung up I get a, "what the fuck?" Text and 3 more calls. At this point I have no desire to talk to her. If I don't answer, she calls my fiancé which is causing issues, and if he doesn't answer she flips and spins some tale that she has something soooooo important to tell one of us that it can't wait. Buy when we call she literally has nothing to say. We live in the same town (which I'm regretting) and she drives by sometimes if I don't answer and then texts me saying she knows I'm home. It has made it so I don't even like going over there because we always have some sort of huge argument because she only sees things one way. 

She reaches out and tries to pay for things for our house or buy something for us just so she has some control. (Example: we're choosing new cupboards for our kitchen and she says she'll buy them, but only if they are what she wants.) she is like that with literally everything. 

How do I deal with this?