relationship, I don't know what's going on. is it me!?
Okay, I'm the last person to EVER go and talk about my marriage with someone other than my husband. Not even my best friend or my mom. I'm the person that thinks that relationship is something very personal and especially arguments should only be descussed between husband and wife. But, I can't hold it in anymore and apparently my husband isn't even listening to what I have to say. So for about a month ago I started noticing that my husband is showing less and less attention to me. We have been married for only 6 months and I guess I didn't expect it to come this early. I'm not the type of girl who would constantly ask for attention, yes I tell him I would like more but even when he doesn't I don't start a fight over it. But for the past month I started noticing it more and more. He comes from work, takes a shower (for an hour) and starts watching TV for like and hour and then decides to call one of his friends to either meet them somewhere or for them to come over to our house. (If he decideds to go out, we both go out).
I know he gets tired and I get that but I'm not asking him to jump in front of me to entertain me! I don't even ask him to go anywhere. All I want is for him to talk to me and maybe actually show that he is interested in knowing what is happening in my day and how I feel. He asks questions like "how was your day babe, or how was college" but "ok" is a satisfying answere to him. Even if I go in details he won't listen very much and forget half of what I said. I know guys are just like that lol but dude I need communication !! I can listen to him for hours of him talking about his work or his car and whatever else that's on his mind and even if I don't really understand I love listening to what is in his mind but I feel like he doesn't.
Whenever I tell him "babe can you please just talk to me, at least for 30 mints something about other then just 'how was your day' because I'm starting to think we're room mates not a married couple" he's like yeah yeah and then gets back on his phone after 5 mints.
I don't know what to do. I was able to deal with it and just let it go for months now and I feel like I'm becoming depressed because I'm such a social person and I know I could go call my friend and talk to her but it's not the same! I wanna be able to talk to my husband knowing that he is interested to share emotions with me and to know every detail about me. He just doesn't seem to get it. And for the past week I could randomly start crying because he's watching TV instead of taking to me just a little bit and he would walk around surprised like "why are you crying what happened" and I'm just so tired of explaining to him . I feel even embarrassed that I have to ask my husband for attention like some immature girl. But I married my best friend not a sex buddy.
I guess I needed to just talk it out, this is very therapeutic btw. 😅😭😌
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