does anyone else not feel like a part of there in laws family?

Question

Does anyone else not feel like a part of there in laws? Or your husbands fsmily? I just don't feel like I belong. She goes and buys her sons stuff like for example a cute pair of slippers or tshirts or whatever yet when it comes to me fiancé doesn't see why I would be upset. She comes home today with a Star Wars tshirt and then a Disney shirt for when we go to Disney and I feel left out. Or sometimes they will go to dinner when finance is out of town they will go before I even get home. They say I'm there daughter but I don't feel like it. I have a kid on the way and just feel like well
Both (baby)feel like outcasts. I just don't know what to do. Or sometimes I will tell him stuff and he tells his mom. Or I will ask him why he told her when it has nothing to do with her.

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My in laws never cut the cord with their son and it has done nothing but cause us problems.  My father in law had the audacity to yell at me over the phone telling me I was a bad daughter in law and I make his wife miserable. I have only seen my family 2 weeks and 2 days in 4 years since we moved out here and we're always visiting my hubbies family.  They seem to think that if I'm not over there 24/7 then I'm a bad person who doesn't understand family. I drives me absolutely nuts. We haven't been talking for the past 2 months now. Ughh.

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This sounds a lot like my in-laws. My husband's best friend is living for free in my father-in-law's house, and my FIL took the entire family out for the best friend's birthday. My birthday was three days ago, I got no breakfast, not even a happy birthday text. We've been together five and a half years, married for almost 4. For Christmas, the best friend got the same gifts as my husband and his brothers, and my FIL got myself and my daughter literally nothing. He didn't even say Merry Christmas. He has blatantly told my husband that he doesn't like me, and that I trapped him into being with me (my hubby was jobless and living in his dad's garage when we got together). They treat me like I'm not even there, though I make sure that I attend all birthdays and family events. They have no respect for me.

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Yes, my MIL specifically asked me to send her photos of her son (my husband) and our kids together and asked I not be in the photos, she insisted if I send photos of me, for it to be sent separately by myself (no doubt so she can stash them in a draw and have the photos of my husband and kids up on the wall). She'll say "I love you sonny!" to my husband and say she loves the kids but won't say it to me. When we wanted to move out of town she said to my husband "Dont move Sonny! Wives can leave but family is forever!" (She said this right in front of me, and oh, I didnt realise me being his WIFE still meant I wasnt family) 😒.

My family are no better though, they always treated my husband poorly too 😡

does anyone else not feel like a part of there in laws family?

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