Disappearing act or break up with him?? HELP ME PLEASE

Question

LONG STORY, please bear with me..
I've come to the point where I just want to disappear on him and never return!

He makes me feel like s***. Always making himself sound and look like he's better than everyone else. It's as if he needs his ego stroked every time/day😔
At the start of this relationship I was happy and gave him my all, my v card included but no nudes because  I'm really cautious about those and I've never sent any in my life.

Well it's been 8 months of an on and off relationship, I am on the verge of disappearing on him, honestly!

I can't do this anymore, I don't have the decency to call him and talk about this anymore because last time I called him up and tried to explain why we needed to take a break. He cried on the phone (he was being manipulative) I fell for it and took him back.

I'm not happy and this relationship is miserable. I'm honestly in tears right now while I'm writing this. I don't know if it's because we're LDR. But he's only come to see me once during these months we've been together and this was only when I asked him to. But he kept making excuses and saying he didn't know anyone here....I went to see him (surprised him actually) without the need for him to come and get me at the airport. I was at his city for 3 days (adventuring etc) while he only came to my city for a day 😔

While I was there, he only came to see me for 1 night. He said we could go to the beach that following afternoon but rang up and told me he got into an accident and couldn't make it. I got worried and told him "it's ok, I understand".

The last day I was there, he said he was on his way to see me that afternoon because apparently he had more than 1 car....he offered to buy food and bring it to the hotel and we can stay in but I had a feeling he just wanted sex and that he was probably ashamed to be seen with me in public 😞 (I was planning for me and him to go to dinner that night...mind you I don't let him pay for me and I've always told him this)

I'm so sad because he takes hours to reply back to me and it's gotten to that point where I'm questioning myself and this relationship.

I'm sorry that this was long but I just need some advice or input because I'm literally on the verge of not even calling to  break up with him but just disappearing so then he doesn't have to sweet talk me like I know he always does....

HELP ME!! What should I do?? I really need help on this

Answer

Break up with him. It seems like you want to fix something that can't be fixed. He obviously isn't into you anymore and is having a good time playing with you. I believe if you truly want to be happy let go, it's not healthy and it's definitely not getting any better. You seem like a really nice person with a big heart who deserves someone better.

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You definitely deserve better!

If you don't feel safe in regards to him potentially hurting you if you try to break up with him, I think just ghosting him and never talking to him again is a good course of action. If you feel safe to say it to him, then do that.

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He doesn't seem like he makes you happy. Are there any benefits to you if you stay with him?

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This does not sound healthy AT ALL, and you deserve more. You admitted yourself that he was manipulating you. You have clearly given a lot to him, and it's unfortunate that he's chosen to act the way he has. However, you deserve better. So take the first step. I personally think you should let him know it's time you both go your separate ways. Let him know you care about him and you always will, but that you want to move forward separately. If he doesn't respect that, block contact with him. Hold your ground, you deserve to. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated. Chances were given and you have seen where it stands. Stay strong and remember that everything happens for a reason! Thinking of you!

Disappearing act or break up with him?? HELP ME PLEASE

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