Divorced Ladies: When did you know it was time to leave?

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My husband has changed completely from the man I married. We never had an "easy" marriage and were never really in love, but lately I don't even recognize who he is. I want to put up a fair fight for our children, but the other day my husband hit our one year old daughter and knocked her to the ground. I'm very broken at having to leave but I know I have to to keep my children safe from this abusive behavior. 
I'm asking to hear your stories about the moment you realized you needed to get out. I want to know when you knew you needed to walk away from a relationship that you didn't need to be in. I need reassurance from strong women who finally said enough is enough and found the inner strength to do what needed to be done.

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My ex husband was a very angry person and obviously I knew that while we were dating but I idiotically ignored all the signs, like how he smashed a dining chair into pieces during an argument with his mother, and naively believed we would not do those things to me because he loved me. When I was 8 months pregnant we were at Wal-Mart late one night and were having an argument because he wanted to buy me a stupid hat I didn't want and would never wear and I didn't want to waste the money. He got so mad he shoved me to the ground (again 8 months pregnant) and drug me by the hood of my jacket on my back across the floor. But the moment I knew i had to leave was about 3 months after our daughter was born, and we got into a fight in the front yard. I decided to cool off, I was going to bring the baby down a few blocks to my parents house. He didn't want me to drive while i was upset so he decided instead to block me in, not letting me out of the car, shoving me into the radio when I argued with him, and finally when I kicked him to get him away and let me out he grabbed me around the throat and slammed me into the seat of the car. In that moment I realized, "if I can make him angry enough to do this to me, one day our daughter will too" and less than a week later my shit was packed and we were gone.

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I'm not divorced but hitting a one year old would do it for me. Good luck you sound like a very strong woman

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The moment your husband hit your BABY is the moment you should have enough courage to leave. You can do it.

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When he cheated on me and was in love with a teenager and he was in his 30s.

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We had started having problems about a 4 months. We were arguing over little things almost everyday multiple times a day. I woke up one night to his phone blowing up with texts. I reached over to turn it to silent so I could go back to sleep. Glanced at the screen to see if it was important and found a girl from his work texting about how she couldn't wait to have him in her again and when could he sneak away again. 
Grabbed my phone got out of bed and went to our living room. Called my mom and told her that I was going to come home for a few days. Was planning on just separating for a while and try and work things out. Starting packing my bags and he woke up. Asked what I was doing and told him I saw what Ashley texted him and I was going to stay with my parents for a while and we needed to talk. Proceeded to slap me and tell me I had no right to get angry and go to my parents house. I deserved to see what Ashley said and I should learn how a real woman talks to her man. And the only reason he sleeps with her is because He needs multiple women to please him. Then proceeded to force himself on me while telling me all about how it's better with Ashley.

Packed all my things while he was at work the next day took the cat and went home to my parents. Hired a lawyer and never looked back.  Happily engaged to my best friend of 10 years. He waited patiently for me and was there to help me rebuild my life.

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I commend you ladies for doing something so difficult because you know you deserve a lot better! 😊

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I'm not divorced but dear the time is NOW! Don't give him a chance to ever hit you or her again!!!

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I'd say you have reached that line... when his abuse affects the kids, then it's time to go. Best of luck, prayers your way ❤️❤️❤️

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The day I made the choice to leave was when my ex husband hit our daughter. I didn't want her to grow up being treated that way, and to think it's okay. She was 2 years old.

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Why did you marry him if you werent in love with him?

Divorced Ladies: When did you know it was time to leave?

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