Furious, heartbroken, and trust betrayed. UPDATE to Boyfriend's Porn
Apologies for the length. This is an update to a post I wrote about a week ago about my boyfriend's porn usage (Boyfeiend's porn-- should I ask if he still watches after he said he'd stop?). The short version is that I told my boyfriend I was not okay with him watching porn, I gave him a few days to think about it, and he gave me his word that he would stop watching porn. This was about two months ago. Recently I've had this gut feeling that he has continued watching porn regardless, so I asked him point blank last night, "Have you really stopped watching porn." His answer was NO. I am furious right now that he betrayed my trust like that. I give him credit for telling me the truth, but I am absolutely heartbroken, questioning everything, and feel violated. I can barely look at him, which is made worse by the fact that we're on vacation together until tomorrow. I told him that I will not continue having sex with him if he continues to watch porn. It's a sexual relationship with me OR watching porn. He told me that he can't make that decision right now because he knows he won't be able to stop watching porn. What should I do? How can I trust him now?
CLARIFICATION-- A lot of women in the comments are disagreeing with my view of porn. I'm NOT here to discuss that. I know that many people are totally fine with their partners watching porn. I, however, am 100% not, and I told my boyfriend so. To me, it is a form of cheating, and he knew that this was important to me. My issue here is the fact that he LIED and betrayed my TRUST after he promised me he would stop.
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