Cheating or no?

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I saw conversations through text and Instagram DMs between my boyfriend and another woman that had gotten flirtatious. With phrases like "I'm getting hot and bothered" and "you make me wet". Would you break up with your boyfriend if you found this on his phone? How would you react. 
This happened to me last night and the only thing I could do was leave. I came back 2 hours later and we did talk about it. He cried saying he fucked up and begging me to stay but all I could do was cry. I'm not sure if anything will be the same with him and if I will ever trust him as much as I used to. 
To make things worse we recently had our 1 year anniversary and we've lived together since the end of November. 
PLEASE HELP. 😞

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Hell no, I'd be gone

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If I were you I wouldn't stick around. Once someone does something to lose my trust, they never get it back. I wouldn't stick around and get hurt a second time. But that's just me every women is different. If you really love the guy and if you think you can trust him again I guess you could stick around. Take your time to really really think about it.

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I wouldn't be okay with my man saying those things to another woman or letting another woman talk to him like that. As hard as it is I would leave and if he really cared about me it would take a lot of work if he wanted me back in his life. Maybe he's sorry but he still did something wrong and hurt you. He took the time to write these things out to another woman and it can't just be brushed under the rug. Find a new place and get some space for a while, you deserve better

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He's not sorry, girl. Anyone who doesn't love him like you do could probably tell you that. Just dump him. It'll only get worse, and he'll only do it again. He's only sorry he got caught.

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One of my boyfriends friends sent him a picture of another girl half naked that he was friends with. My boyfriends text back was "man, I'm so distracted by that ass." I, being the nosey person I am, went through his phone one night & found it. My first reaction was to smack the hell out of him but I didn't. I threw his phone at him when he was sleeping, woke him up from that & told him how disgusting he is & how he doesn't deserve to have a good girl in his life. He told me how sorry he was & how much he messed up & how much he loved me. To fast forward, we have been together for almost 4 years, yes I still have a bit of trust issues but he reassures me everyday & he lets me see his phone whenever I want now, which I don't ask for much to snoop btw. I love him & I could see the sorrow in his eyes that night & I wouldn't wanna spend my life with anyone but him.

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Personally I'd leave. Even if it's hard to do. But everyone handles things differently and you do what feels right

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I'd be gone. That's explicit and really... disgusting to read, tbh. You deserve someone better, honey.

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I look at it as it's all talk. Sometimes men get bored in relationships same as women. Talk to your man to see what's missing as to why he did it. Obviously he's seeing other women as the thing that's missing in your relationships. It sounds messed up but if you love him you work out the kinks. But no matter what happens on here, you're going to do you and follow your heart. Just know i know from experience

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I would leave personally. I'm sure he's sorry but do you think he's really in love with you/ready for a serious relationship if he's talking to someone on the side? My ex did the same thing was so sorry and promised it would never happen again I forgave him and a couple months later he was at it again. If you guys were meant to be it'll work itself out eventually but sounds like he has some growing up to do - don't settle for less than you deserve ❤️

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Fuck him, not literally. But I'm sorry to hear that. There are no excuse for how he responded to the messages and dms because they were so flirtatious and he had a choice to respond to them. It's really unhealthy to stay with him because he broke your trust bond. Thats one foundation of a relationship and it can affect your self esteem. Have some selfworth and express to him you don't tolerate being treated that way because if you stay he will most likely do it again and  assume you'll always stay with him despite what he does.

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