Is anyone's SO not going to be able to take time off/stay home for you postpartum?

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Or just not have a lot of time?

For instance, my fiancée said he can only take 3 days (unpaid) off of work to help me postpartum. He's only taking 3 days because we're living paycheck to paycheck and we won't be able to afford rent/bills/groceries if he takes off any more time. I wish he could at the very least take one week off. Just one week. I'm stressed out because we also have a 3 year old and I honestly don't know how I'm going to heal, battle sleep deprivation, and give our 3 year old everything he needs and he's a SUPER active little guy. I don't have any family who can help, and I don't have friends. I don't know if his family can help but I'll have to ask. (I'm afraid to ask and I'm doubtful they'll really be able to help even if they wanted to.)

Anyone else in a similar situation? Or go through it? How did you do it and what, if anything, helped you?

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Yes same here he took a few of the days he was going to take off to help his mom with brain surgery last week so I might get maybe 2 unless I have the baby before a weekend starts. Any days off are days he won't get paid and we are already paycheck to paycheck as well. Each day makes a big difference. It's life though I'm used to it, I pretty much do everything alone, not by choice but he works a hard, demanding, laborous job to make sure I have everything I need and want so I can't be mad at him for it.

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Mine only took 3 days off and we live alone so there was no help from day 3 with the baby. We  were immigrants back then and all our family was in another country so I used to call my mom for everything for the first few weeks. It was not at all easy but it's gone now so I don't care.

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Did you consider him working the days you're in the hospital? Having the help of the nurses may be enough, that way he can help the first 2-3 days you're home.

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My partners self employed so any time off is unpaid. He carnt have long off ether, it upsets both of us as he really wants to be able to spend time with me and the baby

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My due date is tomorrow, and my SO has to leave out of town for 2 weeks 😭...
Not only him though, my dad and my three brothers will be gone too. So basically if whenever I go into labor I would have to call an ambulance because I won't have a ride available. 😭😭😭😭😭

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My husband doesn't qualify for FMLA as he hasn't been at his job for a year yet. I believe he only has two weeks vacation so he'll be using one after baby is born. He can work at home at times; so there's that. We can't afford for either of us to not get paid. So I feel ya.

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We are having twins on Friday and it looks like hubby won't be able to be home much either!

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My bf was only able to take 3 days as well. The first 2 days we were in the hospital and then I got 1 day with him helping us at home. It was okay when he went back to work we did just fine :)

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Mine had 2 days off but I was in the hospital for those two days. When we got home it was just 4 y,o, dog, baby and me. Not the most relaxing but manageable.

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We have our csection scheduled for the 24th and my husband can only take off the 24th-26th. He's in the Army and though they offer longer paternity leave he's in a certain course that he can't miss more than 3 consecutive days.

Is anyone's SO not going to be able to take time off/stay home for you postpartum?

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