Circumsising our baby?

Question

My fiancé and I are trying to conceive a child and the topic of circumsision came up. 
I think that circumsision is completely unnecessary. I've looked it up and the only medical reasons I've seen is that babies who are not circumsised have a higher risk of UTIs if they aren't cleaned properly, and that they have a slightly higher risk of getting an STI from a partner who has one when they're older.

I understand that some women prefer circumsised penises because they think the natural look is gross, but I also don't think that is a real reason to get it done.

I feel like, if my SO had a religious reason for doing it, I would accept it. However, he just wants our potential sons penis to look like his. I don't think that's a real reason either. He also acts insulted because he thinks that I don't like how his penis looks if I don't want it our sons penis to look like his. (Which isn't true at all. I don't have a problem with how his penis looks.)

Men who are circumsised also have less sensitivity than men who aren't because the head of their penis is exposed and rubbing against clothing for years.

I've been with men who are uncircumsised and I didnt think their foreskin was a big issues when I was giving them BJ's or whatever.

I don't want this to become more of an issue if we do have a boy so I'd rather at least think about it now.

Am I wrong? What should I do?

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Don't make it about you is my advice. Have you ever met a circumcised man that wishes he weren't? Have you met a man who wasn't and wishes he was? Will your son think something is wrong with him when he sees his dads penis and it looks different than his? Will he have problems with infections when he's elderly and can't properly clean himself? When he's a teenager, will he actually clean properly (you can't supervise after a certain age)... just consider all of that and remember it's about him not you.

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I think mothers make too big of deal out of this. We don't have penises, so I feel like the father should have the bigger say in this. I've never once met a man who wishes he was never circumcised. I have met men who choose to get circumcised when they are adults, and they wish they would have had it done as a child.

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I refused to have my son circumsised, because I think it's a ridiculous cosmetic surgery. It only became common outside of certain religious practice because doctors used to insist it would prevent boys from masturbating 🙄

His father is circumcised and so is my current spouse and guess what, my son doesn't really see their dicks, so it's not a thing. Also it's easy to teach a boy to clean himself proper. We teach girls to clean their bits, and to wipe from front to back. It's not rocket science. My son is 14  and has never had a single issue with his foreskin. Neither have any of the men in my large family. Complications from not being are actually quite rare, despite everyone and their dog supposedly "knowing someone who had a terrible time with it". Medical statistics show that just isnt the truth and I trust that and common sense over random, questionable sources.

Your son and his dad should not be comparing junk at an age where the son will even notice. I hate that argument because it's super frickin creepy.

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If it's not broken, don't fix it.

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Me an my fiance our ttc to an this topic came up to he is for curcimssion  as for me not so much but we have came to the conclusion that if we have a boy an he gets to the age it will be his choice there for it's his body an we don't want to make the choice for him

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My opinion is his body his choice!!
With that being said my MIL has already stated if I have a boy she will kidnap him and take him to get it done without my approval

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I don't have a penis and left the decision up to my husband.  We circumcised our boy and our new boy will also be. I have seen what older teenagers and older men go through when they do need the procedure and it's awful.

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Here is my view I've been with a man who was intact and he always had a odor even when he showered (h he properly cleaned) but my fiance is circumcised and it takes him an hour to get off most times... but I'd take an hour of sex over stench anyday

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You do what you think is best, mama. My husband and I disagreed on this topic because he was for it and I was against it. I ended up getting pressured into doing it by him and his mother and I honestly regret it all the time.

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I left this up to my husband.  I don't own one, and he's had a lifetime with it (lol) so I let him decide.  He could do his own research and make an informed decision.

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