Is it bad that I hope to become pregnant?

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I've been with my current boyfriend for about 5 months now. I love him and he's absolutely amazing. We are both 22 with good paying jobs.
About a year and a half ago his ex girlfriend was pregnant. It was unplanned but he was excited to be a dad. She left him one day and and left a note saying sorry but she just didn't want to keep it. She had gotten an abortion. He was completely heartbroken over it. 
Is it bad that I secretly hope to become pregnant one day? I was on the depo shot over 6 months ago, but stopped because I hated it. We don't use any kind of protection except pull out method. I know that's not reliable protection but I never got pregnant with my ex and that's what we did for over 3 years. I've never told him how I felt about wanting a baby, but that's how I feel.  I've always wanted to be a mother especially now. Should I feel guilty for feeling this way?
(He knows I'm no longer on birth control I am not trying to trick him whatsoever. 🙄)

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I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be a mom someday. Talk to him and see if he's in the same page and try to talk about future so you know if he sees you guys long term. I talk about all this with my fiancé in the first months of our relationship (possibly the first month 🙊). And we have always been on the same page. Now we're TTC and he's so excited about it. Every time I feel anything I can see in his face that he thinks I could be pregnant. This is a huge life decision and he needs to be a part of it, if you do get pregnant. If he doesn't want to, maybe thinking about trying a different method of prevention. I don't trust pull out. Maybe you got lucky in your last relationship. But if deep down you want to get pregnant, unconsciously there's that chance you'd let him finish in you when you're fertile so you would fall pregnant. Not saying you'd consciously do that, but you could. Maybe you have baby fever. This app is great for putting some fire in us that's for sure!! Lol But absolutely NOTHING wrong with desiring to have a child someday. Don't let anyone tell you that your dreams aren't worth dreaming.  I've had his dream for the longest time but it was never the right time. Now at 35, after all the traveling and experience I've wanted to do, I'm ready. It feels good to be in that good place when you know this kid will come and will be so loved and have a harmonious life. Big hug to you. 🤗

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Its pretty shitty to try and get pregnant from him without talking about it. It's like subjecting him into a GIANT life decision before he has time to actually think about it.

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Definitely be open about it:) you'll want to have support! Having a baby changed my life for the good and bad and it's totally worth it but you'll definitely need help no matter how ready you think you are and it's extra special when your on the same page. Good luck girl!

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When things are getting hot and heavy ask him if he wants to make a baby. Great way to ask, and get the idea into his head, you guys can talk about it afterwards (or before) and sort out your feelings. If he got existed he might want one too but not know how to bring it up 💜 good luck

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I hope that you discuss this with him. I understand he was hurt by what happened but that doesn't mean he'd be okay with having a baby with someone he's only been with for 5 months. It's way too early in the relationship to even be thinking about children so I hope you guys figure out another form of birth control soon. I understand wanting a baby too. But it's one of the biggest decisions you'll make in your life, and really you're being irresponsible by even letting it be a possibility. It takes 2 years to completely know someone. No matter how in love you might be now, it doesn't mean everything will be rainbows and sunshines in a few years. You could very well end up a single mom. You have to build a good foundation before even considering children. You need to have a long talk with your man about your plans for the future & what you two want to do with your life. Enjoy being together as a couple, you're still getting to know each other.

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If he is under the impression you're on some form of birth control and you're not, well that is unfair to him. A baby is huge, trust me. You're both 22 and only have been together 5 months . Be together for at least a year then get married. Enjoy married life for a while because once baby comes all freedom is out the door for a bit. Don't rush your time away. Plenty of time for a baby.

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I think you should be open with how you feel about it.
And if you feel like you can't be then you should definitely be using a second form of protection

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