I've been dating him for a year now and I've noticed a pattern. I'm suffered from depression and anxiety too so I understand but it's just been so depressing and upsetting to me, although he kept saying he's working on himself and understand my decision but I love him so dam much that it hurt to see him like this and when I asked he get so offended and doesn't want to talk about it. I'm so sad and depressed that our relationship is this way. All day, everyday he kept saying he need to work on himself, he have a plan and he's working toward it so he could get back to being happy with me and have a normal life. He said he has been neglecting me and his friends and everybody else but to me he doesn't and he just hard on himself. He doesn't make effort to do anything with me unless I come to his apartment partially because I live with a roommate who has a cat that he's allergic to..... I don't want to leave him but I'm so sad