WHEN I SAY "NO" TO HIM

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I SAID "NO" TO GIVING HIM ORAL AND HE'S MAD AT ME FOR IT!?

Okay we we're talking about oral, i told him i would give him some tonight. He wanted some earlier than that before company came over. We hop in bed and he turns to my fav show. We lay there watching tv and I tell him "babe, I'ma be honest I really dont feel like giving you head rn, but I can later tonight." (He already had his pants off) He gets upset and turns the tv and says, "you know what? I dont want any tonight."

LIKE WTF...... HE STOPS TOUCHING ME AND EVERYTHING.... like i still want sex, I JUST DONT WANNA SUCK YOUR DICK RN.?!

AM I WRONG FOR THIS?! I need to know........ ladies

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I love the idea that you man out there tv on for you to watch while you're on the job.....romance is alive and well ladies! Xx

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That's really annoying and selfish. Like... giving head is a lot of work, tbh, and you do have to be in the mood. You can still cuddle or fuck...

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That's pretty messed up. If I were you I'd be going off on him. He has no right to throw a tantrum because you didn't wanna do something sexual. I'd have a reeeeeal long talk with him.

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Oh man, I understand. It's like a personal insult if you don't want to. It's a lot more effort than they think it is, and yeah you need to be in the mood. Ha, I have no advice, just saying I feel your pain.

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Dangggggg you really hurt his spirit you know that right lol?  You tell him he's gonna get it and wait until his pants are off to say "no just kidding". If the roles were reversed you'd probably be mad too. I know I would be.

All that aside, regardless of how mad that made him. He should respect your choice and not put you down in anyway. That would be the mature way to handle it. If he CANT handle it then he needs to move along.

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Why do men have the right to get pissed about this? I'm so sick of the entitled attitude I seem to read and hear about and experience everywhere I go. I don't owe any man head ever, and if I give it, it's a gift. Vise Versa. End of story. 😤

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You ladies are awsome, thanks for the comments.. i wanted to make sure i wasnt wrong for doing what i did.... We got in this huge argument about it too... and he just doesnt care at all how im feeling...

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When mine pulled similar shit i told him "did u just HEAR yourself?" (He stated some lame "i wanna CUM" shit😂😂😂😂HILARIOUS) And thankfully he woke up on his own and has never pulled that shit again. And wen i noticed he wasnt being so selfish i suddenly WANTEX to give him surprise oral more often. He was the 1st i did oral on so i was kinda freaked out about it, i wud tell myself "ok its only 10-15 mins...i got this..i can do this " and before long i started feeling awezome about it n now i do it regularly n happily. Might just do it right now.....

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My man is the same way. But we now have a better understanding since I told him when I am ok and not ok with it. 
I will only do oral if he just got out of the shower or within like 30 minutes. If he pees or poops, then no way. 
I also will not have sex immediately after I take a shower because I stick to him and my hair is long and wet and annoying, so sex is uncomfortable.  
And if we are having people over or going somewhere I won't do it because then I smell like sex. 
So, now that he knows those things, we are better. He knows not to ask. 
Maybe try talking to him tomorrow and explain how you feel, once he has calmed down.

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That's childish af but you can play that game too, just saying, he'll want it then

WHEN I SAY "NO" TO HIM

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