My fiance hit me..

This is anonymous because I just need someone to talk too. I have a fiance who I have been with for about 3 years now, we both have children from previous relationships. I have an older son and he has a younger daughter who's mother is determined to ruin our lives. We are paying court fees and constantly battling over non sense. This week my fiances lawyer dropped him because he said the time and drama from his exes lawyer was too much and not worth the time. He has been very stressed and I have tried to be supportive no matter how hard it is. Today he picked up his daughter for a weekend visit, he always changes when his daughter is around, he ignores everyone in the house except his daughter. My son and I are used to it but there are times when it becomes annoying. Tonight was particularly hard because of the drama we have been dealing with and we are both on edge. His daughter his supposed to have a 7pm pick up, the arrangement is she should be fed and bathed since his ex wanted a late pick up on Friday evenings. His daughter was not fed dinner or bathed and I admit I was irritated. We got the family fed and put his daughter and kids to bed and we were both downstairs talking. He was telling me how his daughter was asking to watch a TV show and I jokingly said oooh I thought she didn't watch TV at her mothers house.. That was the breaking point, he was just like stop harping on everything. I said fine and got up from the couch, his feet were on me so I pushed them off he kinda kicked me and tried to trip me. I was like hey don't be so agressive. I went to the kitchen and came back kinda mad about the way he was acting and started talking to him. He was ignoring me and staring at his cell phone so I grabbed it out of his hand. Thats when he got pissed he jumped up grabbed my arm and pushed my face up against the wall. He held me there grabbed his phone, pulled my hair and walked away. Then he said I am not sorry you deserve it....

I am in awe... Even as I retype it, its not real...... Do I leave?

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Ca

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He's not sorry and you deserved it !?!! Wtf? Please , re read your message and imagine what you'd say to your daughter or sister or friend if she told you that this had happened to her. This is a no win situation, get out x

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Be • Feb 1, 2015
Ikr? Triffelin

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Loren • Jan 31, 2015
I agree.

Am

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LEAVE NOW GET OUT!!! THIS IS NOT A ONE TIME THING YOU HAVE TO THINK OF YOUR KID YOU DO NOT WANT HIM GROWING UP SEEING THAT AND LETTING HIM THINK THATS OK GET YOU AND YOUR KID OUT NOW!!! IF HE HIT YOU ONCE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN HE IS NOT THE GUY FOR YOU THEIR IS ONE OUT THEIR FOR YOU A MAN WILL NOT HIT YOU BUT A BOY WILL GET OUT NOW!!!

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rebecca • Feb 1, 2015
this is completely unrelated and I know that but I must ask, is ur real name ambrosia

Am

Ambrosia • Jan 31, 2015
AND IF HE SAYS IM SORRY AND WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN DONT BELIVE HIM BECAUSE HE IS LIEING DONT FALL FOR HIS IM SORRY AND ILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN LEAVE HIM AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!!

La

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Yes. Yes you leave. Hitting is never tolerated ever ever ever ever. You have to remember that this is the man you are telling your son to learn from. You can say his ex is making your life miserable but don't you wonder why? Why she has left him? Why he doesn't have custody of his daughter? These are smaller red flags that are confirmed with this HUGE ASS RED FLAG THAT HE JUST HIT YOU.

Ir

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Leave well you can it's only the beginning no man should ever say you deserve it! !

Ca

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Leave, leave because you and your son deserves better! Let your son grow up as a real man, he's not a good father figure!! He's a baby, when you leave give him a tissue box and say " here's a tissue for your issues." Leave forreal. 

Al

Alison • Jan 31, 2015
Agreed! If not for you give your son a good example

Ni

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It's NEVER ok. Period. 

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Nicole • Jan 31, 2015
I support you leaving. A SO should NEVER hit you. No matter how crazy, stressed, pissed, ANYTHING. Someone that truly loves you would never abuse you, in ANY way.

Al

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Please keep us updated! I'll be praying for you and your son, please leave that man

Ch

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Once a man lays his hands on you, leave. It only gets worst from there!

Em

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It's all downhill from here. It is unacceptable to physically harm you. If you stay you are sending the message that it's okay. Do you want your son to grow up thinking that's what a man should be? Good luck.

Al

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Please leave with your child and get to some where safe. You do not deserve to be in a situation like this. Like all the others said, there is no such thing as one time. I'm sorry you are having to go through this :(