quick tip
I've become happier. Why? Because I used to be on a site where girls vented about their problems all day, and I stopped going on. I used to hear about things that made me sick to my stomach, but I stopped listening. I used to watch these girls repeat the actions that got them in the same formidable situations time and time again, and I, feeling their pain to some extent, was saddened and/or disgusted by what happened. But the thing is, the girls who kept falling in the same issues had a pattern-- they kept repeating the same actions that got them in the trouble in the first place.
I stopped drinking. I stopped hanging out with these girls who only spent their free time drinking and going back to strangers' houses. I stopped reading their depression issues and stopped tuning into the next guy they hated but still kept seeing anyway. I stopped listening to those who didn't listen to my help, nor seemed to want help at all.
We are all unique and special and valuable. We are all finding our way in this world and trying to do what's best. But by no means, if there are those whose actions affect you negatively time and time again, do you have to stay tuned and buy a ticket to the sinking ship that you vicariously feel attached to. Release yourself from others who don't want your help or solutions.
I'm writing this post because I find many women, men--humans--on this app and on other apps that concern themselves in others' issues, primarily with those that aren't asking for help, don't want help, or those who we just can't reach enough TO help.
If it's a close friend, by all means help. If it's someone you can considerably impact, by all means help. But I'm giving you a piece of advice that has significantly added to my happiness in the past year-- stop reading stories that vicariously hurt your empathetic soul when you know that realistically there is nothing you can do to help.
Stop. Focus on yourself. Your happiness is gained through development and progress. You are allowed to focus on the body and life you were given. Focus on you for once and no one else that is "periphery" (exclusions of family, significant others, and close friends). You have the permission to prioritize yourself! And that starts with recognizing what ill is brought into your life with no remedy-- primarily apps and forums of those venting about their unfortunate, but helpless tradgedies.
If you can help, help. If you can't, help yourself and shut off the social media.
My one PSA for 2017, learned from my life in 2016.
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