am I overreacting?

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I let my 4 year old have a sleepover at my mom and dads house on Saturday. I told them weeks ago that we have changed our diet to a pretty healthy one for the sake of our 4 year old who has tummy problems. 
I told them what we hadn't been giving her, which included sugar, like candy. 
Well today, my daughter tells us that "grandpa gave her a soda in a bottle" while they watched a movie. I know that the only soda "in a bottle" they have is coke. They gave my 4 year old a Coke. I don't even drink Coke. I don't drink soda. We don't have soda at our house. They know that. 
 I texted my mom at noon today and still haven't heard back from her.

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A little. Grandparents are supposed to spoil you! I loved it as a kid that I was able to get away with more junk food at my grandparents it was like a little break from the healthier eating at my house.

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I'd have to disagree with the others. If you don't want your child having sofa, especially coke, then she shouldn't have it! I'd be mad if someone gave my son a coke as well, especially if I'm trying to give him a healthier diet and don't drink it myself. Your child's health is one of your number one concerns and it's your right to restrict what others give her - even her grandparents. I think you were extremely respectful and reasonable in your text message as well. Keep at it momma 👍🏼

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I think you are a little. An occasional coke will not harm your child.

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I would be upset if someone gave my young child a drink with caffeine. I wouldn't care if it was a root beer or sprite or something every once in a while but caffeine shouldn't be given to kids.

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Yes I think so. It's expected for grandparents to spoil their grandkids with sugary treats. If it was an everyday thing then I would speak to them about it but just every now and then isn't going to harm your child. 
My grandparents did the same to me with ice cream and cookies. And my parents spoil my kids with things I don't normally allow them to have. But since they only stay over one night every couple of months I don't make it an issue. 
The only thing I have been trying to stop is my mother in law buying my son Starbucks drinks. Everytime she gets him one he gets sick throws it up. So that's definitely a problem for us. But if it's not harming your child I wouldn't make it a big deal. 😊

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If this would be a story about a child getting a cola at daycare, people would be losing their minds.

Because this happened at Grandmas & Grandpas, the lines are blurred.  It is definitely in the category of "Choosing your battles".  Is the battle worth it in this issue?

Personally, I would not be excited about it due to the caffeine.  I would probably get some Izzy sparkling juice for grandmas as kind of a compromise...but those still might be too high in sugar for your liking.

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You are not overreacting! She is your child! I'm the same way with my daughter, a little more though. I told my grandmother she would never see my daughter if she gave her candy and soda behind my back after I asked her not to.

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I think you are right. One soda in a while won't harm, but you wrote a nice message, without making the other person feel bad, but you got your point across. Grandparents ARE supposed to spoil, but there are things that some parents want absolutely banned

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I agree with you, if you specifically asked them not to give her sugar and sweets then they should respect that. I get grandparents are suppose to spoil and be fun but sometimes they forget mom and dad still make the rules. My daughter will be gluten free because I am and she's never been exposed and until I know if I have celiac, which she could possibly have too, I want her on the same diet as me. I have already explained that my parents and thankfully they seem to understand. Hopefully they will be more understanding next visit and respect your wishes.

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I hate to say it but u are Probably fighting a losing battle. Most grandparents I know have a really hard time not letting the grandchild indulge. They already raised kids and played by all the rules, now they want to have fun and spoil whenever possible. If it's just a special treat w them once in a while I wouldn't worry too much. The majority of her nutrition is coming from your home and is healthy.  A coke once in a blue moon really will not hurt her. I know fully well my kids are eating junk at the grandparents even tho they know we feed our kids and ourselves very healthy.  My MIL knows we also eat mostly organic but when she is in charge of the kids she generally feeds them how she wants.

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