Advice? Please..

So today I went to see my mental health counselor. She said that my doctor had emailed her concerned about how I acted at my last O.B. appointment with my husband. The doctor said I showed signs of abuse from my husband. My dad has also voiced similar concerns.

How can I tell..? It obviously isn't physical abuse, but how do I tell if I'm being emotionally abused? I was in an emotionally abusive relationship before I met my husband, but I didn't realize that he was emotionally abusive until after we broke up.. how can I tell..?

It's easier to see from the outside looking in..