is it rude

Is it rude that I don't even want to tell anyone when I'm in labor/have the baby until I am home from the hospital? Literally the only person who would know is my husband. I don't want family there or anything. They all know the gender after I told my mom and begged her not to tell anyone and they've made it clear but won't admit it to me. They keep saying "he" and "him", my sister texted me saying "it's a boy I'm so excited for you!!!" and when I asked my aunts about it they said they plead the fifth and changed the subject, obviously showing that they know. I asked my mom about telling my sister and she told me that I must have told her myself.  When I got upset about it my aunts finally told me not to take it out on my mom because she's "just so excited she can't contain herself". I was clearly a little irritated and then I was told that I can't be mad at her because we will be young parents and will 100% need her help and rely on her. And so I left, and when I got home I received a text saying they were never told after they admitted it to me. I was planning a gender party and now I don't even want to bother spending money on something to reveal it to only my husbands parents. I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable here in not wanted to throw a gender reveal party anymore or tell anyone when I have the baby? I was told it's completely unreasonable that I won't throw the party anymore and I just feel like it's so pointless now..