I have lived in ohio my whole life, my husband has lived here most of his life. We always talked about moving for better weather. We decided 20 years ago to stay because of our aging families, after losing almost all our family we stayed so our oldest son could finish high school with his friends. He graduates this year and for the last few years he's decided to either move for college to a school he would have to live at a dorm at or he was going to join the navy. I have a job opportunity in NM and started doing research on this area and am in love. My husband is excited and we've set a time frame of leaving in the beginning of June. My oldest son has decided he is now going to stay in our home city and go to a community college for the first year to save money on some classes and is upset that we still want to move. I really don't know what to do. We told him we want him to come with us even if it's for a year or two, he can live with us, go to school and work part time, essentially what he would be doing if we don't move and he just doesn't want to come. He doesn't want to leave his friends. I really hate the thought of us abandoning our son during his first year of college but I also feel like my husband and I have put this move on hold for a long time and it's kind of our turn to do what we want. Sorry this is so long but what would you do in my situation?

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Thank you all so much. I've been feeling a little guilty about possibly leaving him behind. I hope he realizes how much we want him to join us on this adventure. I think it would be good for him to see new things and meet new people. I know we've raised him right and he'll be able to take care of himself. I guess I just needed to hear from people not in the situation that were not being selfish.