I Hate My Messy, Miserable, Petty Ass Family 😡😡😡

So my husband and I have been together for over 8 years. Well at first my family loved him and thought he was the perfect guy for me and my 2 daughters. Well the last couple years he helped me open my eyes to my real problems and that was me letting damn near every single family member that I was around use me (either by borrowing money they were never going to pay back, watching there kids so they could hang out, using my car and fucking it up in the process, etc). Well I stopped helping them out because when I needed help, they complain want me to pay them and scream they can't do it.

Like I said before I have 2 little girls before we got together and neither one of their dad's wanted to be in their lives (at the time they were 2 and 4). It was to a point where my 2 year old didn't even know what a father was and my 4 year old only knew no matter what mommy was there! Anyway when he became more than just a family friend he took on the role as being a father to my (our) daughter's. That was the first time my 2 year old knew what a father was and my 4 year old actually learned that someone else would love her like her mommy.

Well being that my 4 year olds dad wanted nothing to do with her in the first place he really didn't care, his only goal was to see if he could still sleep with me from time to time. My 2 year old's dad all of a sudden wanted to be a father to her and wanted her to know him and told me I need to stop trying to make my husband her new dad!

Well as the years go by we have our own baby together and continue to take care of our girls and I started to just want to spend time with our little family. My cousin stayed in mother's ear about him controlling me and the kids, how I don't come around and won't let the kids come around them. Well needless to say I stopped letting my girls go around them because instead of letting them play like kids, they were interrogating them about what goes on in my household and talking to them about their dads that don't come around and dogging me out to my kids!

My mother and I stayed into arguments over this to a point where she started interrogating my girls about what goes on in my household and talking to them about their dads that don't come around and dogging me out to my kids! It got to a point where our kids came home telling us what was said and started disrespecting us. We literally had to cut all ties with my family because of this.

My cousin is always calling me for help and being the kind hearted person I am, I try and help her (which I really shouldn't because she is the main one with my name ln her mouth). Well I just got a phone call today about how she is again keeping my name in her mouth about how wrong I am for cutting my mother off for the well-being of my family and my unborn baby. How I don't know who my daughter's father is, etc.

These are the reasons my kids arent allowed around any of my family without me because they are miserable and your not going rub off on my kids when you clearly aren't that involved with yours and they're failing school agian. Her daughter has been held back twice and her son can't say a proper sentence if his life depended on it and on top of that he is failing school and half of the time not even going. Her kids are watching her lay up and doing what she does which is nothing but sleeping all day and up all night. But she's talking about mine.

I'm a high risk pregnancy, so confronting her with this is like agruing with a wall. She thinks she's right about EVERYTHING and cursing her out will only prove it in her eyes. If she hear it in the streets from years ago, then it must be true because the streets don't lie on nobody, except on her. So I am just like fuck it, I will continue to cut each and every family member off that tries to jeopardize our happy home.

I hate the fact that I had to distance myself from my mother, but I refuse to let my kids get poisoned with this bull. Am I wrong for feeling like this?