it needs to be said. long but a good read.

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To the women who thing they are ready to be a mom. I'm not going to tell you that you aren't and you shouldn't. Every life situation is different. However It isn't only cute baby outfits, picking out a name, and a smiling cute baby. It's hard and it's expensive. It's exhausting, terrfying, and the best thing in the world. Its things you would never think of missing and things you don't realize change, things no one tells you. It's 33 hours of labor ending in an emergency c section that makes you have to learn to do EVERYTHING with out your core. It's wanting to sleep on your stomach but your baby will only sleep on your chest and that's the only way to get some quiet. It's the possibility of a colicky baby who will cry 80% of the day. It's learning your child has sensitivities to almost every soap but noodle and boo (it's like $17 a bottle) and along with that soap sensitivity every diaper but Huggies gives them a rash so no cheap anything. It's only being able to use tide free and clear so you forget what clean laundry smells like because your clothes come out smelling like nothing. It's not sleeping because your baby who has RSV keeps coughing and you're scared out of your mind. It's never sleeping in or really sleeping at all again. It's staying up as late as possible so you can make bottles for the next day to help with reflux (shaking and serving is SOOOO bad for babies period especially baby's with reflux). It's wanting to breast feed because it's free and your body won't allow you to. It's thousands of dollars in start up (crib, dresser, clothes, wipes, diapers, baby bath tub, soap, towels, wash clothes, ect) because let me tell you, no one gets everything they need from their baby showers. It's singing twinkle twinkle little star at 3am when your body is begging for sleep. It's replacing your favorite kind of music with classical because it's better for brain development. It's hundreds of dollars a month and thousands of diapers a year. It's waking up at 4:30 every morning to get your self and the baby ready to get to daycare so you aren't late for work and hitting snooze means no make up and no breakfast. It's a million formula changes until you find what works best for your baby. It's taking off work early and missing hours of pay to take the baby to well baby checks. It's wishing for just once you could take more than a 5 minute shower. BUT it's also seeing your baby smile for the first time, hearing their first breath, watching them as they peacefully sleep, it's knowing that no matter where you end up that little person is your heart existing outside of your body. As I said, it isn't my place to tell you what to do but there is so much people don't realize that goes into parenting until they are already a parent. 
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It's also about having an amazing partnership with your husband. Having a man who supports your feminism. A man who supports your decision to quit your career if you choose. It is teamwork. It is beautiful. ❤👣

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Very true and well written!  I know everyone always says it, but I still can't believe how much my life has changed since having my son six weeks ago.  He was very desired, but sometimes I miss my old life were I could do whatever, whenever I want.  I love him so much but this mom thing is hard! 

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It *could* be

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Karely • Feb 12, 2017
thank you ladies for seeing what I meant. I know this is a situation many mom's can relate to, but also many can't. I've enjoyed being a new mom much and haven't had to deal with these issues.

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Alysha • Feb 12, 2017
I have dealt with every single one of these issues. I know it's not typical but I wish I could have read this before I had my LO. Apparently we got the worst case scenario.. lol.

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Anjelica • Feb 12, 2017
Exactly. It *could* be these things but honestly I haven't dealt with many of these issues. I won't say parenting has been easy, but it definitely wasn't as hard as OP made it out to be. Every situation is different

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And it's going to the pediatrician 15 times in the first 4 months because they can't figure out why she's not gaining weight. And hopefully you have good insurance. (I don't) lol

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Yep. I'm the mother and father. I get it all and I'm greedy for every smile tear and laugh. Everything is done my way 100% of the time. It's exhausting but I love it. My ex is missing out on his beautiful child and he will be the one to regret it. Not me. Bc I get every smile, every tear and every laugh of my beautiful perfect baby 💐

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Most of these things don't apply to me but it's a good read.

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I think this should be for people in general! This is an amazing and accurate description. At least in my opinion. 

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Yeah you're right it should be for all mothers. I changed it to that