Vaginismus? Please help!!

Question

My doctor thinks that I have vaginismus. I'm really scared. I can't afford "therapy" as she suggested, and I don't know how to get rid of the problem. My bf is great, he's very understanding, and it's not his fault. Does anyone else have this problem? Help please!!

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Vaginismus is something that I have struggled with for 18 months and the more you "practise", the easier it gets. Yes it is a psychological thing but it can also be that your body needs some physical stretching in that area. I bought the book and dilator kit online and have used them on and off. They were the most helpful resource yet - it can be very discouraging when people label it as purely psychological and you're doing all you can to help yourself. Hang in there and do as much as you can - remember to be kind to yourself too (us women can be so critical of ourselves sometimes!!) the website is www.vaginismus.com :)

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I'm not in a relationship right now, but was recently diagnosed with Vaginismus. In thinking about the future, I've been thinking through different treatments. I know that dilation kits exist (though I haven't tried them yet) but I've also heard about hypnosis (since this is a psychological disorder). Any thoughts on that? And what about natural/herbal supplements? Any out there? I'd just like to have this solved before the conversation with a husband has to happen.

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Find a doctor who is willing to suggest other options and work with you to find one that helps. There are doctors who specialize vaginismus (Sexual pain, vulvovaginal disorders, etc). My doctor recommended an at home series of "exercises" when I couldn't afford physical therapy. You have to find the right way show your brain that penetration isn't negative. Make sure the steps you take do not cause pain as it will only trigger the condition and make it worst. Educate yourself on your body so that you can best figure out how to control those muscles.  Knowing your body (and the anatomy of the way a woman's body works helps you to have less fear or misconceptions about what's going on down there. 
Don't give up! Healing has to come physically, mentally, emotionally, and I believe Spiritually. There's a lot that goes into it, but it's so worth the work it takes to get better!

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I have vaginismus as a result of severe pain during sex caused by endometriosis. A few years ago I had a Botox injection to relax my vaginal muscles. It worked well - my vaginismus definitely went away temporarily - but it did cause some unpleasant side effects, like incontinence. I wouldn't recommend it. Since then I've focused on treating endometriosis (which helps relieve pain during sex and makes me less anxious about penetration) and relaxation techniques, and it seems to be working. Good luck to all of you, I know it's a terrible feeling when you can't seem it fix it :(

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I kinda thought I had that problem too..because I don't know how to say this but let's say me & my husband are not compitable at all in that area..
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​I felt it was never going to happen to be honest..the problem is that I was very tense & afraid,he is my first.
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​ it happend eventually..just some patience & a lot of relaxation.

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What is vaginismus? I'm not being nosey, I was just wondering..

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There are some kits you can buy that go up in size to help stretch out the muscles of the vagina! I think it's called like a dilation kit or something? You can probably find it on the internet and I doubt it's that expensive!

Vaginismus? Please help!!

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