Hello ladies!

I am currently pregnant with my first baby (a little princess) and I am starting to feel nervous about MIL house. My mother in law is a decent person, albeit a bit of a nag but she is a grade A HOARDER.

Not sure if you guys have seen the tv show but her house is identical to those on tv as far as how bad it is. She lives in a trailer that's over 20 years old (ancient for a mobile home) the ceiling in the living room is covered with black fuzzy mold. Every surface in her home is stacked with piles of shit that touch the ceiling. To walk around the house there are specific walk way trails that you have to follow. In the 10 years that I have known her, the same dishes have been piled in the sink, unwashed. The counters are stacked with trash, mail, toys, etc. I have seen cockroaches coming out of the dishwasher when she opened it. The bathrooms smell like mildew and have clothes, wet towels, dirty diapers, empty soap containers strewn everywhere. I went to use the restroom there once and there was a turd sitting on the toilet seat.

There are rats that run around the house in broad daylight, their poop covering my nieces bed in one of the bedrooms.

I could go on and on about how revolting this place is but that would take days lol. My husband grew up in this environment which caused him to become like a neat freak, almost germaphobe as an adult.

I am worried that my mother in law will expect my daughter to be able to stay the night with her as her other grandchildren tend to do on occasion but the thought of my baby crawling around in that mess turns my stomach. Her other adult children let their children come and stay with her because they have grown up to be slobs as well (not to that extreme though)

I asked my husband what he thought about his mother mentioning she couldn't wait to get the baby and he kind of brushed it off. He agrees that we won't let our child spend the night there but he doesn't see anything wrong with dropping her off for a visit. I know my MIL hasn't mopped or swept her sticky, rotten linoleum in at least 10 years and there's no way in hell that I will allow a child of mine to play on that floor. I don't mind us stopping by for a visit but I don't want to leave my baby there or my MIL can visit her at our house. I don't know what to say and make it clear to my MIL she cannot have our daughter the way she gets her other grandchildren. But I also don't want to come off as a neurotic bitch. Any suggestions on how I should tackle this?

Much obliged.❤