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Whose last name should my son get? We aren't married!

Meredith
Me and my boyfriend are 19 and pregnant. We love each other but don't have a perfect relationship. He would marry me in a heartbeat, but I'm not too comfortable w the thought of marriage at such a young age and w our relationship being as immature as it can be. I still want to be w him and raise our baby boy together, but I'm lost on the last name. Please give me thoughts and opinions!!!! Of course my family is fighting for our last name and his is fighting for theirs, but I feel like outsiders thoughts would help as well. 

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I think if you aren't quite sure that you'll get married in the future, give the baby your last name and if you do get married, you can change the baby's name to his when you change your name (if you want to do that).

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Haley • Feb 25, 2017
This is what I did.

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The baby should have your last name of you aren't married ....if you do get married in the future then change the name :)

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I mean it's your baby but I feel like it is just right to give the baby the fathers last name. No matter if you get married or not he will always be that baby's father. 

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Personally I'd give the baby your name if you're unsure of marriage. My once told me I would've had her and my sister's last name had she and my father decided not to get married. You could always change the name later. Or keep it because it's your baby.

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🐬 Hailey ♒ • Feb 24, 2017
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If I were in that situation I would hyphenate. 

Ka

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Honestly, I believe that if he is the father of the baby, then the baby should have his last name. Married or not. 

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Just remember, if you give the baby his last name their pretty much is no changing it if you don't stay together!!! 

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Caley • Feb 25, 2017
Because it has to be in the best interest of the child and the courts won't let you keep changing names.

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Azaria • Feb 25, 2017
Why not if she could change it from hers to his ?

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My parents weren't married when I was born, and so my mom gave me her last name and my dads, hyphenated, just in case something went totally crazy and he decided to take me and run or something 😂 after they got married, they dropped my mom's maiden name from my last name, and there ya go! That's how I would do it if I were in your situation.

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I'm very traditional so I say that the baby should always have the father's last name regardless of if you think you will stay together or not. Of course it's up to you, but that's just my opinion. 

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Fathers. That's just what I would do.. whatever you decide to do for your baby is up to you 

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Tiffany • Feb 26, 2017
Yeah the last name has nothing to do with medical decisions, and he can't take the baby and leave the country without HER written consent either so your argument is invalid and honestly, stupid.

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Nicole • Feb 25, 2017
Ugh. Like I said .. "whatever you decide to do for your baby is up to you." But personally I don't see what the huge deal is about giving the baby his last name, if the father is going to stick around and care for the baby

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Meredith • Feb 25, 2017
He isn't my fiancé though, that's my point.
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