how should I talk to my boyfriend about kids?

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We've talked about it a lot of times before, fought about it a little bit too. He's 19 and I'm 18. We have been together for a year and 2 months and we both love each other with all our hearts. We believe the universe conspired to help us find each other. I believe our souls met long before our eyes did. But he isn't ready for a child like I am. Neither of us have a job but I have insurance and we're applying for jobs so I don't understand why he's so opposed to me getting pregnant now. He said he wants to try in a few months but I don't want to wait. I understand I have to, but How do I talk to him about it without making him feel pressured? Thanks so much

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Honestly I would just wait. Once you get pregnant, you only have a certain amount of time to find a job before you start showing, then your going to have to go on maternity leave & your not going to have that long to stay on maternity leave. Honestly, I would wait too you guys were more established. My boyfriend & I both have a job & we're still stressed cause mine is only part time, we just moved last month, and it's honestly just a lot. Take your time. It's really no rush.

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You've already talked to him about it. He said his piece and wants to wait. You need to respect that.
I agree with him that y'all should wait. Children cost a lot of money and you don't have jobs yet. I know y'all are looking, but the job market can be finicky and it can be a while before finding a job. Getting pregnant now would cause a lot of stress.
I know what it's like to have baby fever. I've had it bad since I was 16 and I had to watch many friends have babies over the years. But I'm now 25 married to the love of my life with a steady job and I'm so glad I waited so I can give my baby everything and more
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You're really gonna need jobs to support a kid. All the prenatal medical bills plus the delivery cost is about if not more than $5,000. Could you afford to buy the crib, bottles, clothes, diapers, wipes, ect right now? Defiently need to wait, he's being practical and smart.

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I have battled a STRONG desire (some times more than others) since I was 15 to have a child. 
At 16 I told my boyfriend at the time I wanted a baby. He disregarded it and never brought it up again. I broke up with him for other reasons not long after 
At 17 I made a tinder, faked my age and tried to convince guys I was on BC just to possibly get pregnant 
At 18 I got married. My husband and i both want children, I more than he.

After 3 months of marriage, I want so badly to start TTC but he is just not ready. Financially we are not ready. We still need a house, I need to finish school. We have steady income but at 19 and 23 we have our whole life ahead of us and plenty of time for children down the road. As much as I want one and as impatient as I am, it's just not time.

I think that may be where you are too. I know what it's like to want a baby so badly. But if he is not ready and you two are not working now is probably not the time, but it will come

how should I talk to my boyfriend about kids?

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