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I personally just believe in dressing your age. When she's 12 she will dress like a 12 year old and so on. Once she's 18 she do do whatever though..
your daughter - modesty?
are you going to let your daughter wear clothes like crop tops, booty shorts, lingerie as a shirt, etc. as mentioned in the first topic in public? why or why not?
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If my kids are home, I don't care what they wear. They're home. I know I'm guilty of wearing just undies or nothing at all. But if they're out in public, I'm going to teach them how to dress. Like you shouldn't go out wearing just underwear or a see-through shirt that shows everything. And I don't care, I worked in a truck stop and I've heard too many stories about child predators. We can preach until we're blue in the face about how women and children are not sexual objects, but bad people are still going to be bad people. Even if your kid is dressed in a moomoo, child predators still exist. I'd just rather be on the safe side and not allow them the opportunity to see my kid/kids half naked and get any ideas from that. But like I said, if they're home, I don't care. They can dress or not dress in whatever they want
Ki
I think it's my own comfort zone on the subject. I just remember so many truckers telling me some fucked up things they've seen
St
Unfortunately there is no "safe side" about that subject.
St
I agree with you, but there isnt such a thing as "give the opportunity to child pedrators". Most pedo victims I know were children dressed as children. Unfortunately the way they dress wont make a difference.
I believe in dressing your age, that being said I don't believe 13-17 year olds should be dressing the way most of them do now. A lot of them dress like 21 year olds going to the club, not children lol. My daughter will wear what she wants within my rules, until she has the means to buy her own clothes. Lingerie for shirts - no, shorts with her ass cheeks hanging out - no, sheer shirts with nothing underneath - no, shirts showing too much cleavege - no. I don't expect her to be covered from the neck down, but I don't want her showing off her assets to everyone either, lol. I think it's reasonable.
WV
I understand that sometimes you can't help some cleavage, but you can help them nearly falling out, lol. I'm not saying no cleavage when she's older, but not more showing than covered lol
em
Sometimes you can't escape cleavage though. If the neck is too high on my shirt, I look giant, if it's a v-neck or less, it's cleavage for all. I can't escape it.
WV
It's not that I will be "slut shaming" or teaching her to be ashamed of her body, when she is around the house she can wear whatever, but I won't have an underage daughter dressing like she's a clubber lol.
This is going to be hard for me. I am naturally modest. If my daughter wants to let it all hang out, I'm going to tell her she can do that when she gets to college. I don't need nasty men looking at my by girl's goodies. Especially in light of all this "she doesn't look her age" foolishness.
Sh
I hope it works! For both of us 🙃
Ka
I've got a fourteen year old and this is pretty much the same thing I told her. My father always told us that how we dressed in public was a reflection of him. Some might think he was wrong, but it still sticks. I dress appropriately for the occasion. Trying to pass that on to her.
It's so hard to give a definite yes or no since styles and society changes sooo much and so often. I think crop tops are okay as long as it's done tastefully (not paired with booty shorts) And I wore my fair share of short-shorts so I think that's okay as long as their ass isn't hanging out, and it's appropriate for the weather. (If it's 60 degrees you don't need short shorts.)
Nope. I wasn't allowed to dress that way when I was younger. I don't think it's right. When I was in high school I saw little girls running around wearing shorts that could pass off as underwear, see through shirts, etc. I'll let her wear shorts, but they're not going to be booty short. I also don't think it's appropriate for a teen to own lingerie.
I think as long as she's dressing for herself, not to impress other people, I'll let her wear whatever she wants. Same goes for a son also (although that never comes up, since apparently only girls can show too much skin)
Ni
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Ni
Yup, no one every cares about what boys wear. 😒
Mo
I don't think it's shut shaming to want your daughter (or son) to wear clothes you (as the parent) deem appropriate. Everyone has different views of modesty and what they find acceptable for themselves/their children in public.
I will let my children wear whatever they are confident in. They will also be taught that the way the dress is not to impress anyone or feel cool, but they should dress for themselves. If my kids feel confident in "revealing" clothing, then I will allow them to wear them as long as they are wearing them for the right reasons.
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