Before you say it, yes I had a baby, and both my parents were in the delivery room, and his parents were there too, and we had friends and family visiting the entire time we were in the hospital, and everyone was allowed to hold the baby. And guess what? My baby not only lived to tell the tale but was able to decipher who his actual parents are! I know, it's a miracle!  

Sometimes I think it's no wonder why we live in a world where there is no human contact, and kids are kept in bubbles by helicopter parents. 

The saying used to be 'it takes a village.' When did it change to 'I'd rather do it alone because I know it all?' 

*update*

Wow who knew one strangers opinion on the internet could piss off so many so quickly!  I wrote this post because I've seen several lately saying the opposite of how I feel. I was honestly asking for someone to explain to me why this was the new trend because I truly do not understand why someone wouldn't want family around. Me calling excluding family selfish is not me judging other women, it's me stating a fact. If your family wants to be there, and you don't want them there, and you put what you want and your feelings before theirs then by definition that is selfish. You are putting yourself first. There's nothing wrong with it. Own it. As far as the vagina talk goes, in my birth I wasn't naked, and the seating in the room didn't give anyone a full view of my vagina, no one saw it, they were all by my head. I obviously wouldn't want anyone seeing my vagina up close and personal, but my experience is what I'm drawing my conclusion from. In my opinion birth is not intimate, and my bond with my baby is just as strong as anyone who didn't allow their family to visit. To end this, I'm still waiting for someone to explain to me why they wouldn't want family to be included? 'Because I said so, you're mean rude and judgmental' doesn't really explain anyone's thought process for why it's okay to exclude family.