What would you do?

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I'm going to explain what happened with me from august 2016 to now. I was dating my best friend of 8 years. We were together for 3. We broke up right before my birthday because he wasn't in love with me anymore. He wasn't happy. He said it's not me that made him feel this way, it's just how he feels. We've never broke up before. Every since then I've been so depressed, I'm thinking bout going to the doctor. It's affecting my life so much. Well fast forward, I get in a relationship with this guy around November. I was not ready. I was pressured, heartbroken,  ect. I wasn't thinking straight. I'm still with the guy now, but there is things I don't like about him & I will feel like a shitty person for leaving him. I am SO NICE. I put others feelings before mine. He's the sweetest in the world, but he's a bit controlling. He has a temper. We don't agree on most things. He wants me to have my phone location on. I can't like, comment on any picture that has a guy in it. As in, this guy had a snake on his neck and I commented '😳'. He got mad. Sometimes he wants to go through my phone. I have nothing to hide. Go right ahead. I've never gave him a reason not to trust me. He said when summer comes, I can't wear short shorts or crop tops. Mind you I'm 22, he's 20. I've never been in a relationship where I felt so controlled. My ex texted me and wants me back but he hasn't said anything because I'm in a relationship and he don't want to disrespect that. Me and him have SO MUCH history together. We got 2 dogs together. We had our own home. I stay with my current boyfriend at his parents. I don't want to, but he wants me to so I do. It's stressful. My life every day is in this house. He has no money to go out an do anything, plus he talks bout moving out of state. I'm not ready for that. && the money isn't a problem at all. I could be like, lets go to my parents and he gets so shitty. There are reasons why he does that I'm not going to get into, but he can't keep me from them even though they are assholes. I just don't know what to do. Please help. I'm so depressed I can't even think straight. 😭 I have no one to talk to.

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Please do not stay in this situation because you feel bad. I married someone that sounds just like your boyfriend. It was awful and I wasted years on him and ruined my credit in the mess of a divorce. But I wouldn't jump right back into where you left things off with your ex either. I don't think you can just not love someone one day and flip a switch and be in love with the the next. It sounds like there's more there you two need to figure out. You deserve happiness but it's not always what you think it might be! Wish you the best of luck!

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You're in an abusive relationship. You've made it clear you want to leave, just do it.

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Sounds like you know what to do. 
You're with a control freak

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I think the best thing to do is end this relationship before it's too late. What if birth control fails & you bring a child into this toxic relationship that you really don't want a part of anymore? It would make leaving that much more difficult. This guy sounds very controlling & you guys only just started dating, I can't imagine what it could turn into. Also, I wouldn't jump right back in with your ex. His reason for leaving you in the first place was very shitty, considering he now wants you back. I know there's a lot of history there but history doesn't always mean happiness & compatibility . I would take some time to be single, maybe get counseling for your depression, and just enjoy some time alone before jumping into another relationship.

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Time to put your feelings before anyone else's right now. Leave your bf. He's controlling, which is a form of abuse. You deserve a man who loves, respects, and trusts you. Not a boy who tries to tell you what you can and can't wear, or tells you what photos you can comment on. You can do this. You know this relationship isn't good for you. Take the first step and walk away. We're cheering for you!

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You don't need someone controlling you. You're a grown woman and that's not a healthy relationship

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Be single.

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I actually had to vote go back to your ex. Maybe he just overwhelmed... but aint no dude gone tell me what to do like that. I don't think that will end up good.....LEAVE

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You just named a bunch of reasons to break up with this guy. Don't feel anything about hurting his feelings because he's already thinking about his feelings enough for the both of you, he's only thinking about HIS feelings and what he wants and controlling and getting his way and monitoring you and ruling over you....I could keep going. You don't have to go back to your ex but be selfish for once and do what you want to do-comment on a picture, sleep in your own bed like a starfish, go somewhere without checking in or asking for approval, doooooo it! This guy isn't worthy. You and your ex probably didn't get around with anyone else or many ppl so maybe that was kinda weighing in on him. He's had his time away and it's up to you what's acceptable. I'm married to my 1st boyfriend and we are both very happy we broke up after 8 months bc we dated other ppl, did some living, found each other again at 27. We think if we never broke up we wouldn't be together now. Follow your heart and be not nice for once, do it for yourself

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Get the hell away from that control freak...

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