Crying spells. Advice?

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My son is a week old and I have had really bad crying spells in the evening and at night really bad. I sometimes feel like I want my old life back, but then I look into his eyes and I am so in love with this little human. I really miss getting a full nights sleep and sleeping in my own bed (on the couch constantly with baby next to me at night so I don't wake my husband (early worker)) I sometimes feel so helpless on what to do with my son, questions always popping up "am I a good mom", "am I doing this right" "what can I do for you little one when your crying". It's really starting to take a toll on my body physically, not getting enough sleep and constantly being stressed about our income and household. Seems like I'm alone most of the time because of breast feeding and having to be there 100% of the time for him. My husband has been amazing in helping as much as he can but it sometimes doesn't feel that way at all. My son has an amazing day then all night is up and fussy....I know these first few weeks are the hardest and I'm pushing myself to not show my feelings too much when I'm emotional, especially when my poor husband already feels he's not doing enough for me. (Which he is). I just need sleep and a schedule.... Any advice on how to help with both?

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This sounds identical to my first child! We were in the exact.same.boat (on the couch at night so my husband could go to work early)  You are going through so much with these huge changes and sometimes it's all just really overwhelming. My mom gave me great advice on 2 things-  1) if it was this bad all the time no one would have a 2nd child.  That got me through a lot of the emotional roller coaster just preparing myself that it would get better.  2) 1st week is better than the 1st day.  2nd week is better than the 1st week. 1st month is better than the 2nd week, etc.  The more time passes, the better you'll feel and learn your baby.  Get some gas drops for when you've exhausted all options with him.  Follow cues (rooting for hunger, drawing legs Up and tensing for belly pain/gas, wet or dirty diapers, etc.) and just go through the motions until yall get into a better routine and learn each other better.  It will get better, promise!! My son is 4 1/2 yrs old now and we survived! You will too with a ton of support around you like this! You're already doing a great job!

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Awe your amazing in every way! Your a great mommy. I had my son three months ago and was right there with you. Sleeping on the couch so I would wake up daddy because he works so early. I'm 24 and also miss my friends and go out and having fun. But being a mom really has changed me and I miss it yes but rather be a mother to my beauitful son. My advice is start traing your baby now I would keep it load and bright dring the day try to keep him up even if he's fussy. Let him take short naps . At night keep everything quite . We installed dimmers so we could dim the lights. Start pumping milk. My baby doctor told me to introduce the bottle in the first month. So they baby takes the bottle. I didn't it around week three and I was able to have my hubby or mother in law watch him and feed him while I slept . Took a long bath. Even had time to go to dinner with friends. It's hard the first couple months. My baby is sleeping at night now and I feel less stressed. I hope you feel better remember talk to your hubby about your feelings don't keep it in. It's normal to feel helpless. Remember your amazing in everyway and your doing a great job. Find a good show to watch while you feed at night or up with your baby it helps I watched Dexter help me stay up to take card of the little one. Good luck wish you the best

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You're normal, especially if this is your first. You're dealing with sleep deprivation and recovery from delivery and your hormones are still out of whack.  Take a deep breath. Let your hubby help when he can. Take a few minutes to yourself. Sometimes this may mean letting baby cry for a minute or two while you try to breath. And the best thing you can do is not bottle it up. If you don't feel you can talk to your hubby then try a friend that's also a mommy, or even your midwife/dr. They can help.  It's hard, but you got this Momma! Just the fact that you're talking about it here is a step in the right direction.

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Of course your a good mum. This is all very normal. I was very tearful. A few friends told me this would happen. I didn't believe them.. I thought why would you feel tearful when you have your baby in the world. Then I had my baby 4 weeks ago and they was right. Hormones are weird. A few days after birth I burst into tears. My other half was worried but I said I'm not crying cause I'm sad I'm crying because all emotions are going at you at same time. 4 weeks after and I feel much better.  If you still feel like this after a month speck to a health visitor or doctor.  A friend of mine didn't realise she had post natal depression.  Once it was dignoised and got the help she needed she felt so much better.

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My little boy is 9 days old today and I experienced this when he was about five days old. It felt for the first 5 days of his life I was holding back the tears so people didn't think any less of me.

Cue midwife appointment at 5 days old and I forgot mine and my little boys notes. I felt so stupid and could have cried right there and then but I didn't feel comfortable in front of this new midwife who I hadn't seen before.

Anyway when I got back home with hubby queue about 6 hours of crying on and off. It was as if all the emotion of the last few days and my labour and my little ones birth was coming out. And you know what, as soon as I had that massive crying session I felt loads better? My advice is let it out. Have a cry have a winge and a moan, holding it all in is only making you feel worse.

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I could have written this myself! Every night around 5-7 I get so emotional I just want to cry. I miss my old life and regret having a baby :-(. I feel horrible for feeling this way but I feel so trapped. I love my baby girl and I would murder someone for her but I miss my freedom. Im so anxious all the time unless she's asleep. I keep hoping it gets better as she gets older. You're not alone! And I'm pretty sure our feelings are totally normal. Doesn't mean that were not good mommies or that we love our babies any less!

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I still cry at almost everything

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Are you feeling better yet? This sounds a lot like me - but yesterday was a lot better. It's been 13 days since my baby's birth. I know it's been longer for you, so I'm curious if things feel like they are getting better - mood wise.

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It's only natural to be a little emotional, your body has been working super hard trying to recover from pregnancy and delivery! My baby is 13 days old and I still get teary (although I am one of those who won't let anyone see) I think it's also because this is our 3rd and last baby so everything is a 'last time' to get to fo all this

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I thought I was the only person that feels this way but I see that you feel the exact say way I do I think I'm going to talk my doctor tomorrow to see if I have it cause I want to be the best mommy I can be for him

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