Limits on "My house, my rules"?

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Ok I just want to know what you think is okay when you still live in your parents house. Can they control what you do to your body? Piercings, tattoos? Or do you think it should only be setting curfews, who is allowed in the house? Or both? When would you draw the line? For example, mother telling you you cannot get something pierced. (This is all for people living at home over the age of 18). I am 19 and my mom controls the piercings, tattoos i get, ect. I respect her rules and do not get the piercings or tats, but i personally think you cant control others bodys. And Im starting to get very salty with her telling me no. Just because my body isnt really her business and all. All opinions welcome. I will, in no way, disrespect my mother and go behind her back for any of these body modifications. I am frustrated, but respect her household and the rules.

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I think that parents should set boundaries if their adult children aren't acting like adults, but if you have a job and are in school and are a responsible and respect human, parents should respect that their kids are individuals. Respect only works if it goes both ways.

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I think just curfew and things of that nature. I don't see how you getting a piercing would affect her in any way. It's just an attempt to further control you.

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I say curfew, etc only because a time you come into anyone's home should always be considered & respected; until you get your own home with your own rules. But as far as body goes, I mean unless it's against you all's religious believing or something of that sort (which in some cases, may need be to considered and respected), but at the same time, if you've grown to understand your own beliefs in religion or anything else and you're now practically grown and stuck in your ways then who's anyone to tell you anything at this point?? 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Body I wouldn't care about. I was getting piercings at 16 because I didn't need permission and my mom was pretty laid back she didn't like it but knew I wasn't taking it out. I love tattoos and piercings so I honestly wouldn't care especially once my kid is 18 they can legally do it so that's their decision. And again I got piercings at 16 and got a tattoo as soon as I turned 18. My boyfriend hates tattoos and piercings but I think he'd agree once you're 18 you can do it. But curfew if you're still living with me Idk if I'd make them be home at a certain time, but they need to let me know if they're going to come home or stay at a friends. I'd maybe make a certain time and if you can't be home by then, you need to stay somewhere else. Like how I grew up with that I lived with my aunt and uncle for a while when I was 18 and they had a curfew for me I think it was like 2, or I needed to tell them I wasn't going to be home and let them know where I was staying. When I moved back with my mom I didn't have a curfew but I needed to let her know if I wasn't coming home and where I was staying it I wasnt.  When my boyfriend grew up he didn't have a curfew and just came and went as he pleased.

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The only thing they should be able to control is who you bring into the house and what you do in the house (like drugs). If you are an adult you can do whatever you want with your body, and you can stay out as late as you want - because that only involves you. It doesn't effect them. But it is there house, so I'm in favor of them controlling what goes on inside of the house. Like having you do chores, can't have sex in the house, can't do drugs in the house; things like that.

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Definitely curfew, you are still their child, they still look after you while you're under their roof, try to be respectful and go by their decisions, if you don't like it, leave :). Simples

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To tell you the truth, you shouldn't gat too many "bad ass" tattoos, the only reason being is that you'll look like a fool when you're old and have a giant dragon on your arm. But it is "their house" and "their rules", so if you don't respect their house and when you should be in it, it isn't right, as you're most likely freeloading off of them, so it's only right that you abide by some rules. But again, it is your body, and you should be allowed to do whatever you want to it, you'll just have to live with it for the rest of your life.

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I say both. Personally, as long as you live under my roof, be it 15 or 25 you will abide by my rules. I don't want my kids to get tattoos or piercings so as long as they're living with me they're not to get any of those things. Once they move out they can do what they want.

Limits on "My house, my rules"?

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