Venting &I looking for advice... I'm vacationing with my family this week and am also touring colleges,but leading up to this vacation has been ruff. We're staying with my narcissistic grandmother (love her dearly but she's text book symptoms) and due to this I'm already stressed as I'm the least favorite grandchild (they pick a golden child, she did the same thing with her children) so I'm already expecting unneeded judgement. On top of this I have to keep my college plans a secret or she will call incessantly for who knows how long. My mom has also repeatedly told me to change what I'm packing because I need to look "good" the whole week because we're seeing family and friends (people I barely know) almost every day. Just constant little digs like oh you're packing that shirt and do you really want to wear that makeup? I dress decently. I'm good with the whole visiting family thing but I'm not okay with feeling like I'm something to be paraded around and perfectly put together in their eyes. I've gained some weight around my middle recently and am definitely conscious out it, so I'm focused on dressing in what makes me comfortable but I'm struggling with all the judgement I'm feeling and am anticipating. I feel so stupid as I should be grateful I get to spend this time with my family on a great trip, but I at this point I rather stay home than deal with all of this. Tips to maybe put my mom in her place and enjoy the week regardless of the impending judgement?