2nd or 3rd baby's feel different?

Is this anyone else's second or even third baby and you just aren't excited? 
Our first baby it took us 4 years, and 5 lost pregnancies to have her, the entire time we were told we would lose her, but I had this gut feeling everything was fine the entire time and she was :) 
Labor did not go well because of complications and I almost died, they said this time should be different but... 
I am not excited. I don't feel the gut feeling that everything is okay. I see everything is a burden. I just got in really good shape and was ready for our vacation to Hawaii, I am trying not to be disappointed that I will be in that gross bloated stage while in a swim suit. 
I am trying to understand that God has a plan and everything will be okay. 
I hate not feeling as excited as I did, I feel guilty. 
Has anyone else felt this way? Did it get better?